Not sure whether this is the right board to post on (which one would be?) but can anyone advise me
I have neighbours on one side who on a regular basis (several times per week) scream at each other. By scream, I mean at the top of their lungs for half an hour at least on average.
They did this for example, at midnight on Christmas Eve, 6am on Christmas Day. They're doing it right now. I thought maybe it was just me but I've had people round to my house when they do it who look at me in shock horror, ask about it and say that's not normal.
Mine is the only house that is attached to theirs, but I know that other neighbours know about them, because I've had other neighbours bring up the topic with me and ask how I cope with it. Plus sometimes they do the screaming in the garden or at least with all the doors and windows open at the back, so you could hear at least a few gardens away.
I've never said anything to them or made a complaint about it to anyone, yet. I did once have a sort of loud, obvious conversation with a friend in my garden, when I knew they were just the other side of the fence, just after they'd had one of these rows, about it, hoping to shame them into at east toning it down a bit. They have tended to keep the doors etc closed now but I can still hear it all through the walls.
My state of mind hasn't been the best and this really hasn't helped. I moved in with DD as a baby, on my own and with no support, and it's been horrible hearing this so often, it sets my nerves on end. Now DD is 2 I'm worried that she will start to pick up on what they're doing (as a baby it occasionally made her cry/on edge but she hasn't noticed it a lot, so far thankfully). A few months ago when I was really not in a good way it made me really shaky when I heard it, and weirdly I began to shout at DD which I think was a result of the impact it had on me, I didn't mean to do that but that's how much effect it's had on me. I hate sitting in bed alone at night and hearing them start up, it makes me immediately upset and anxious.
The neighbours are about 50-60 I would say, because they have GC.
I'm not very good with people (due to my own emotional state) and would prefer not to approach them directly about it. Sometimes I think I should call the Police while it's happening, because I hear so much screaming and banging (I don't know whether they are throwing things, slamming doors or something). I'm in a rented place but can't move out at the moment due to not working and needing a stable place to be, with DD - and everything else about the house is kind of ok. It's a breach of the peace as far as I'm concerned, but do the Police want to be called out for domestics and does it ever do any good?
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ThisiswhatIwant · 08/02/2016 14:21
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