DH and I had been married for 10 years, we have 3 DC.
I was not happy in the marriage. He drank a lot and could be a bully towards our eldest (not his biological child). He was bored a lot of the time which is why he said he drank. He rarely wanted to do things with the DH on the weekends as he was either hung over or 'just wanted to chill out'.
Apart from this he was a nice guy, people like him, he is very gregarious and kind and a hands on dad.
I met someone else. DM told DH she suspected we were having an affair and told him he needed to follow me and confront me. DH hit me, we separated and I started a relationship with the OM. DH moved in the DM temporarily...
Two years on and OM and I live together. Dh and I are amicable, he has a new partner and we split the house sale for amounts we were bith happy with.
DC are happy.
My Grandmother who is 95 refuses to speak to me after DM told her what I'd done. My brother has very little to do with me, nor my step sisters or aunt and uncle. My mother pretty much told anyone who'd listen what 'I'd done'. My mother tries to be very sweet and friendly when she sees me but is firmly in the ex-DH camp, in fact he has moved back in with her....
The family side of things really gets to me, I feel like some kind of pariah.
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Had an affair, left DH and family have now disowned me.
CityFox · 08/02/2016 11:50
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