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feel taken for granted

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fondationmaeght Sun 31-Jan-16 09:47:02

I'm not sure my title explains it properly, I'm so tired.
I just feel that my DP tries to get out of things with the kids. I'm constantly taking them to the park with the dog, on my own. Or taking them up for bedtime and he sits on sofa and only comes up later on and then stands there not knowing what to do. I have been diagnosed PND and I feel he could step up a bit more. And also make me feel special.
He's not supportive emotionally and it's getting me down.
Does anyone think this can get better? Is it a sign of a crap relationship?

Resilience16 Sun 31-Jan-16 10:21:54

Hello there. Kids are hard work. Relationships can be hard work. PND is horrible and everything seems a hundred times worse when you are tired.
You need to talk with your DP and tell him how you feel. You need to communicate. In my experience a lot of crap in relationships is due to poor communication.
Things can get better if you can talk things though. Or even write him a letter! Get your feelings out there, tell him you need to feel appreciated and special. Be kind to yourself. You are doing a great job with the kids and the dog. Here is a hug from me to you x

fondationmaeght Sun 31-Jan-16 14:19:46

Thank you! That made me cry. Feel a lot better now as I had a nap thanks

Binders1 Sun 31-Jan-16 20:03:42

In my relationship I felt like a single mum and I let it become the norm. In the end, as my son got older I actually preferred it that way. My ex was never into family or being a dad. I'm not saying you are in the same position but definitely speak to your dp and I agree pnd is awful but you will come out the other side and you are doing great. flowers for you.

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