Hi there im 25 and my boyfriend is 26. it's a very long story to be honest but it starts from 6 months into our 2 and a bit years relationship my boyfriend dumped me 6 months in for 24 hours then came back saying his made a big mistake. Then everything was fine again as time went on I noticed he was doing things that you shouldn't be whilst in a relationship like a girl posted on social networking like for my number and he liked it why when he has me? Then I pulled him up on that and everything carried on as normal but all I kept getting was a feeling that something was going on like something I should know so I went through his phone to put my mind at ease but that wasn't the case he had been messaging a girl flirting calling each other babe and baby something he calls me so I pulled him up on that and that stopped then I started getting that gut feeling again so again I looked in his phone and his had numerous dating site accounts when I notified him I knew this he lied and confused his own lies because first he said one of his friends was on about it so he had a look then he said his email account had been hacked which was a lie because in that case you would just get a new one all he did was change his password so I couldn't get on it. So I had a breakdown then and he said it would stop so again we started again by this time I was pregnant with our little boy who is now 6 months so overly emotional anyway and I thought once baby was here he would change but no things still kept going on now I know he has a Twitter account dedicated to porn following over 2,000 naked pornographic women and even attempts to chat to them and also he had yet another dating site which he had been using this is recently and during our first 6 months I found out the other day he had been talking to his ex saying he was living the single life that basically he dumped me because I was boring in more ways than one and they even spoke about getting back together it just breaks my heart we have a beautiful baby and he was planned as all we both ever wanted well at least that's what he says but yet he doing all this what do I do I love him but he just keeps hurting me, I mean last week I wrote him an essay of 11 pages saying everything his done and how I feel I literally poured my heart out, he wrote one back but not really giving me what I wanted out of it it was only 2 pages. He tries to say he does things because he has put a little weight on and his adhd and he has let himself go and that's why he does these silly things which is no excuse I mean I feel unattractive and ugly that don't mean I'm going to watch porn and talk to men.
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Boyfriend had an addiction what do I do?
Leaneedshelp · 29/01/2016 10:25
I literally could have written your post, 2 years ago. In fact I did.
I left. It broke my heart to do it but I left. And now we are better than ever. We still have a good, friendly relationship and we co-parent our son together.
I will tell you one thing for definite. He will never stop. Please trust me.
PM if you want. 
You have. You've got yourself.
Trust me, turning to yourself is better than turning to a lying cheating piece on scum who treats you like shit.
And when you're not wasting your life writing 11 page essays (
WTAF?!) to a total loser, you can use your time to get out and make friends and build a network.
Better off alone than with that prick.
leave.
He isn't going to change.
He doesn't care what your opinion/emotions are about this, he hasn't changed his behaviour, you will be putting up with it for ever.
He has no intention of being faithful to you.
Get an STD check for your self and kick him out.
I know but the person that I am I worry about others rather than myself our son looks forward to his dad coming home from work he gets excited to see him every night when his here he shows love and affection at home I think he just wants the best of both worlds and that obviously can't continue its just hard to see it all go.
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