I'll try to keep this as brief as possible and offer up more background if it becomes relevant.
About 7 years ago my DH had an affair which started as EA and then escalated. It took him an extraordinarily long time for him to end things with the OW and was still in contact with her via Social Media last July. Yes... it's been YEARS!
I attempted to leave him a couple of times but felt couldn't deal with the associated financial hardships, kids were distraught and wanted to go back home. He refused to leave the family home. We have attempted on numerous occasions to rebuild our relationship and he saw a counsellor for a while.
For most of the duration of his affair I was a complete mess. Overweight and depressed. I felt thoroughly undesirable. Low self esteem etc.
About a year ago something snapped and I decided to get off my arse and set about putting myself back together. I left my boring job and have started a new business, lost weight, started wearing more makeup, had my hair sorted out and generally taken better care of myself. I feel so much better.
As part of my work I've met many new people and attended social functions as part of what I do.
I've realised over the past year that I'm actually an attractive woman and men have started reacting to me, in a way I'm completely unfamiliar with (having hidden away and felt disgusting for years). I'm not going to lie... I've thoroughly enjoyed it.
Anyway... Last Autumn I developed a friendship with a man. Up until Christmas we were in contact most days by text / phone / message. We've never met alone, always at functions.
Have to say I was feeling very positive and enjoying the attention. Which I know is selfish of me.
He phoned me on Christmas Eve to say that he wouldn't be able to phone me for a couple of weeks and that he'd phone me early in the new year. Totally understandable, family time etc.
Basically he didn't phone. I waited several days and then messaged him. He then phoned (after I'd basically prompted him), but has only phoned once again since. Also he's been responding far less to me on social media and his 'tone' has completely changed.
I'm currently feeling rather devastated and stupid. Something has obviously happened over Christmas.
I've been crying most days for the last couple of weeks, as I miss him. I really enjoyed talking to him about nothing in particular.
Currently feeling properly depressed and unsure where I go from here.
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Started EA and now it's all gone wrong
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CreamTeaTotty · 27/01/2016 13:00
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