Hello, my work colleague is a male ginge and seems to regard himself as being a suitable subject for the undateables! He's a lovely man and would do anything for anyone and he is really funny once he opens up. Problem is he's painfully shy at first especially around women, think looking at his feet whilst talking. He is a bit naive and has been taken for a fool before now as well as having people openly insult him with regards to his colouring. Anyway to cut a long story short he has given up on looking altogether since his last online dating fiasco. Any thoughts negative or positive to help?
I'm ginger and yes sadly is hell a lot of ginger-ism out there. Much much more towards men. Even had my own sisters say I don't mind having a ginger if it's a girl but not a boy!
It's the one of the first things people will say oh no you have ginger kids.... Yes there maybe some people who don't care a monkeys but if you ask a pub full women if they would go out with a ginger you probable get a very low response. Sorry not what you want to hear just my experience!
honestly I have never heard of this forget all about the hair colour, forget all about dating, find a nice hobby that men and women his age enjoy, meet people he has something in common with and especially forget about stupid people with stupid prejudices
I'm sorry to of caused any offence he uses the terms to describe himself so he wouldn't be upset. He has also overheard women hoping they don't have a ginger baby. I think online dating in general is a bit shallow as it is really just picture based. It was the fact that on one site women had listed desirable hair colour and red was thin on the ground.
It's hard to be a gingernut and shy. (I am). It means we go red and our shyness is very visible. I don't find ginger an abusive term btw, I will think of myself as ginger and I think it's nice! But not everyone does of course- but that's just horses for courses. Look at Chris Evans, it didn't hold him back. Or Fergie (hmm well, maybe not Fergie!)
Im of the red colouring but more auburn than proper carrot ginger and i jokingly say if ds has my colour i will shave his head. It became a running joke when i was pregnant and now he is 7 months old his hair is dark so he isnt going to be redheaded and im secretly glad as he wont face the bullying like i did when i was growing up. As it is now i get more men fascinated by by hair colour as it is so different to the rest
And you think having consulted a bunch of random internet strangers about the 'problem' of this colleague's hair colour is going to make him feel better about his romantic prospects?
He can't do anything about other people's stupidity and prejudice, but he could improve his romantic prospects by working on his confidence. I would have not the slightest problem with dating a red-haired man. I would find a desperately under-confident, naive, shoe-staring man, who thought he was undateable, very unattractive. It's not my job as a potential partner to jolly someone along and convince him he's worthwhile.