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Honest opinion of gingers

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EmmaBray Mon 25-Jan-16 22:29:28

Hello, my work colleague is a male ginge and seems to regard himself as being a suitable subject for the undateables! He's a lovely man and would do anything for anyone and he is really funny once he opens up. Problem is he's painfully shy at first especially around women, think looking at his feet whilst talking. He is a bit naive and has been taken for a fool before now as well as having people openly insult him with regards to his colouring. Anyway to cut a long story short he has given up on looking altogether since his last online dating fiasco. Any thoughts negative or positive to help?

U2HasTheEdge Mon 25-Jan-16 22:32:16

Well my first husband had the brightest orange hair. It really was super bright and orange.

We divorced (not because of his hair!) and he had no problem marrying someone else.

Our children all have dark hair, but I am expecting ginger grandchildren.

Some people love it, some people hate it but it doesn't make anyone undateable. His confidence would be the biggest issue and looking at his feet, not his colouring I doubt.

hownottofuckup Mon 25-Jan-16 22:33:40

I have a bit of a preference for ginger hair tbh.

antimatter Mon 25-Jan-16 22:33:49

He should just go and socialise with all sorts of people without looking for a date!

steppemum Mon 25-Jan-16 22:34:42

to be honest, I am not easily offended but your title and post have annoyed me quite a lot.

This guy is shy and has social issues, but your post seems to be suggesting he has a problem because he has red hair?

Dh is a red head. I find him very attractive.
Ds is a red head, he is going to break hearts at some point.
I haven't noticed that famous red heads have a problem.

ds finds 'ginger' highly offensive by the way, and ginge is horrible.

Akire Mon 25-Jan-16 22:36:24

I'm ginger and yes sadly is hell a lot of ginger-ism out there. Much much more towards men. Even had my own sisters say I don't mind having a ginger if it's a girl but not a boy!

It's the one of the first things people will say oh no you have ginger kids.... Yes there maybe some people who don't care a monkeys but if you ask a pub full women if they would go out with a ginger you probable get a very low response. Sorry not what you want to hear just my experience!

U2HasTheEdge Mon 25-Jan-16 22:36:56

Ginge is horrible but I don't think ginger is. My husband would say he was ginger, I never really thought that it might offend someone.

U2HasTheEdge Mon 25-Jan-16 22:38:17

I had a midwife stay hours after her shift because she wanted to see if DS had his dads hair. He was bald grin

I have had comments about how I must be lucky that my children have my colouring and not their dads hmm

Scarletforya Mon 25-Jan-16 22:38:20

I can't say I find ginger/red haired men attractive. Just a personal preference. However ginger/red haired women tend to be far more attractive.

U2HasTheEdge Mon 25-Jan-16 22:38:53

how I must be happy... not lucky.

Cantseetheforest Mon 25-Jan-16 22:38:54

Love redheads! My dh is strawberry blonde and I love it. It's faded away now, apart from his facial hair.

Vixxfacee Mon 25-Jan-16 22:39:49

I love ginger/ red hair. Beautiful unusual colour and something to be proud of.

Shallishanti Mon 25-Jan-16 22:41:35

honestly I have never heard of this
forget all about the hair colour, forget all about dating, find a nice hobby that men and women his age enjoy, meet people he has something in common with
and especially forget about stupid people with stupid prejudices

EmmaBray Mon 25-Jan-16 22:42:26

I'm sorry to of caused any offence he uses the terms to describe himself so he wouldn't be upset. He has also overheard women hoping they don't have a ginger baby. I think online dating in general is a bit shallow as it is really just picture based. It was the fact that on one site women had listed desirable hair colour and red was thin on the ground.

Squeegle Mon 25-Jan-16 22:43:23

It's hard to be a gingernut and shy. (I am). It means we go red and our shyness is very visible. I don't find ginger an abusive term btw, I will think of myself as ginger and I think it's nice! But not everyone does of course- but that's just horses for courses. Look at Chris Evans, it didn't hold him back. Or Fergie (hmm well, maybe not Fergie!)

WorraLiberty Mon 25-Jan-16 22:43:33

Let me get this right.

You're going to stroll into work tomorrow morning and tell a work colleague, you've consulted Mumsnet about his hair colour and love life - or lack of it?

GingerCuddleMonsterThe2nd Mon 25-Jan-16 22:44:25

Ginger people are lovely and love to cuddle #fact my nickname is gospel. wink

QuietWhenReading Mon 25-Jan-16 22:46:03

I think red hair is gorgeous on both men and women.

A confident smile (even if you have to fake it) is the most attractive thing though.

mybloodykitchen Mon 25-Jan-16 22:46:25

In relationships? 'Would you date a ginger?' Really?

Are you familiar with netmums?

MaisieDotes Mon 25-Jan-16 22:49:20

Oh ffs. If he's painfully shy then that's clearly the issue, not his hair.

"A male ginge" - wtf. Do you think red haired people are another species OP?

"A man with red hair" is an adequate description, or "a ginger haired man", if you really must use the g word.

Fintan Mon 25-Jan-16 22:54:03

What an odd post.
Did he ask you to consult MN on this subject?
Or are you going to work tomorrow to tell him you took it on yourself?

His shyness is more of an obstacle than his hair colour.

Fintan Mon 25-Jan-16 22:54:41

kitchen grin

PainAuChocolat23 Mon 25-Jan-16 22:55:12

Im of the red colouring but more auburn than proper carrot ginger and i jokingly say if ds has my colour i will shave his head. It became a running joke when i was pregnant and now he is 7 months old his hair is dark so he isnt going to be redheaded and im secretly glad as he wont face the bullying like i did when i was growing up. As it is now i get more men fascinated by by hair colour as it is so different to the rest

Lottie2611 Mon 25-Jan-16 22:57:01

I'm not attracted to ginger men. Then again not really attracted to blonde men either.... I like a dark and brooding looking man

HeavyFrost Mon 25-Jan-16 22:58:57

And you think having consulted a bunch of random internet strangers about the 'problem' of this colleague's hair colour is going to make him feel better about his romantic prospects?

He can't do anything about other people's stupidity and prejudice, but he could improve his romantic prospects by working on his confidence. I would have not the slightest problem with dating a red-haired man. I would find a desperately under-confident, naive, shoe-staring man, who thought he was undateable, very unattractive. It's not my job as a potential partner to jolly someone along and convince him he's worthwhile.

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