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Sorry if TMI Watching TV whilst giving me an O

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bumbleclat Mon 25-Jan-16 21:48:02

Sorry if TMI but am feeling uneasy about this...

My lovely attentive, selfless (in bed) DH was stroking my back and bum etc yesterday while we were watching TV.

Things got a bit more err intimate and he was stimulating my clitoris I was so very turned on by this but at one point I looked over my shoulder and he was watching the TV whilst doing this.

I like it if we are both really into it, not just him mindlessly giving me an orgasm but I was so on the brink of coming that I just let my concerns go and we ended up having sex, he then had a late night where I went to bed early and I didn't see him until tonight when I got in from work.

Something about it has made me feel really sad, like we've lost something almost.

Do you think I should talk to him about it?

Am I being silly for being upset?

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Gazelda Mon 25-Jan-16 22:33:57

I'd definitely talk to him about it.

hownottofuckup Mon 25-Jan-16 22:36:18

Hey? It's is that a joke? please say yes

Agree with Gaz talk to him about it. If you feel you can't that would be a greater concern for me.

Wileycoyote Mon 25-Jan-16 22:37:14

I don't think that's a terrible crime. Sometimes it's just like that? As long as it's not the norm!

TheNaze73 Mon 25-Jan-16 23:09:52

Depends what was on the tv. It shouldn't be the norm, I agree but, in isolation?

AyeAmarok Mon 25-Jan-16 23:27:33

I agree, not great, but not a huge deal.

Just talk to him.

KimmySchmidtsSmile Mon 25-Jan-16 23:39:52

It's obviously bothering you as you have two threads on it so talk to him. ;-)
As to would it bother me, nope, not in the slightest.
a) he's multitasking, I'm impressed
b) if he was just doing it for me, I don't need him to be into it
c) if he has no need for reciprocation, he's a keeper
But that's just me I works the other way, I am an expert at ball-stroking with one hand and kindle in the other. Just asked dp
if that bothered him. Unsurprisingly no. Maybe you're over thinking it?!

MadeMan Mon 25-Jan-16 23:50:05

"I am an expert at ball-stroking with one hand and kindle in the other."

Is this the next step on the path to enlightenment after mastering the patting of head whilst rubbing tummy, Kimmy-san?

Chinks123 Tue 26-Jan-16 09:42:48

Wouldn't bother me at all, if he'd suddenly stopped to watch the tv then I'd of been miffed! I agree with Kimmy multitasking is impressive wink but everyone's different and if it upset/bothered you a little I'd just ask him. X

Binders1 Tue 26-Jan-16 11:30:18

If you're upset, of course you should talk to him.

It wouldn't have bothered me and I bet when you glanced at him and he was 'watching the TV', he probably was just glancing at the TV, not intently watching it. Next time you start getting sexual, why not just turn the TV off anyway.

ShelaghTurner Tue 26-Jan-16 11:32:59

If you were having sex and found him watching the tv then it might be cause for a little concern but as this sounds like tv viewing with a bonus I wouldn't be too worried. Makes a change from them fiddling with their own bits whilst watching tv wink

bumbleclat Tue 26-Jan-16 12:24:15

Thanks, I think I'm just tired and pmting emotional smile

HelpfulChap Tue 26-Jan-16 12:29:56

Was the football on?

Sallyingforth Tue 26-Jan-16 12:33:17

Sounds fine to me. Have experienced something similar and was quite contented.

PotOfYoghurt Tue 26-Jan-16 12:35:40

I think it would bother me if it was the other way around- he was watching TV while wanting me to wank him off.

Jan45 Tue 26-Jan-16 12:36:20

Oh the romance

pocketsaviour Tue 26-Jan-16 13:30:06

The trouble is with damn TVs, they draw the eye. Have you ever noticed if you visit someone and they leave their TV set on, no matter how interested you are in their conversation, your eyes (and theirs) are continually flicking to the TV screen?

HellonHeels Tue 26-Jan-16 14:09:44

hmmm I think I'd want the TV off before starting (or at least continuing) anything intimate. I'd find it distracting for myself and yes would feel a bit unsettled if I thought partner's attention was on the TV rather than me.

I would find reading a book / watching TV / doing the ironing / online shopping while nominally 'attending' to a partner to be very rude. I want to give my full attention to my partner.

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