Hiya, I'm a bloke who has been lurking here for a while. I would really appreciate some advice around dating. My marriage ended around ten years ago, since then I've had one longish relationship that lasted three years.
Here's the thing - I'm a full time carer and live with my disabled son. He's brilliant in every sense, my absolute world, and the two of us rub along just fine. I can't help thinking something is missing from my life though - as much as I adore him, life can be lonely at times, and I'd love someone to share it with.
The relationship I had after my marriage ended didn't work because they struggled to come to terms with how much of my time was dedicated to him, and despite my initial sadness, I get that. My son is now a teenager, I can't predict the future but equally I can't see his care needs changing when he becomes an adult, and neither would I want them to. He's very much the focus of my life.
So, I've tried to step into the world of online dating. What a fucking terrifying world that's turned out to be! The question is, at what point do I mention my somewhat different home life? I don't want it on my profile like some kind of hero boast "oh what a wonderful, caring man", with no thought to the day to day implications. But at the same time I don't want to lead anyone on as I recognise it isn't for everyone. The one woman I had been messaging recently ended up replying that "it wasn't really what she was in to", hence my asking here when to broach the subject!
Does anyone here have a similar situation? Do I place a big notice on my profile, or do I wait until I've chatted for a bit or even after meeting - would you feel peed off if you didn't know the truth from the start?
Ta v much in advance...
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mrbloodyconfused · 24/01/2016 18:44
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