There isnt anything left sadly. He of course us very surprised & asking to make a go of it. I can't agree to him coming home. I cant imagine it will ever change. I lost all hope of it improving over this last year.
Hi I alternate between feeling nothing, mourning the loss of what might have been, and occasionally a ray of happiness. I don't think you are unusual, what may be unusual is your honesty in expressing it. Given that he wants to make a go of it you also have the knowledge that you could change your mind if you really wanted to. I wish you the best.
Why did he only take the DDs out and not the DSs? Especially if he hasn't seen them for ten days. Is it because it's the boys who have SNs and he can't handle them? Or can he only cope with 2 DC at a time?
Gosh that sounds really harsh and you must be so angry. He sounds utterly useless.
It's awful when house issues flare up and you are on your own dealing with bloody everything, but just keep reminding yourself he probably wouldn't have been any help anyway!
Hes never taken all 4 dc out. Hes never taken the 2 boys out together, thinking about it. They are 7&10.
They are difficult to manage especially outside. They can't cope in shops or inside places with lots of people. I take them to parks, go swimming, forest walks, sometimes museums (go first thing on a Sunday) but dp doesn't like doing that sort of stuff do the boys dont want to go out with him.
His attuide to the boys is fundemental in our relationship breaking down. I've tried talking, explaining, educating & even pleading with him to learn & understand Autism/ADHD /Sensory Processing Disorder but i can't get through to him.