I'm too scared to post in AIBU.
5 years ago when I divorced my husband (very painfully and it was such a difficult time) I had a ring he'd bought me years before when we were on a rare weekend away without children. Not expensive, just a plain silver ring. I was still wearing it after we split, my wedding ring he'd (for reasons known only to himself) taken with him (I do hope the OW wasn't palmed off with it).
So some months later I was doing an excellent show of "fuck him" and I wasn't wearing the ring and I said DD could wear it, and then she asked for it. I said she could have it - it's one of those which is in two parts and they fit together IYSWIM and i think at the time she found some meaning of her own in wearing it.
So she still wears it, and we've all pretty much moved on. I would quite like to have it again. Why? It's a nice ring, I don't feel it holds the same meaning it once did but it does hold some happier memories and I'm coming to realise that these are an important part of the whole marriage. At Christmas DD took it off and I put it on and she asked me if I want it back. I said no, but I wanted to say yes. I don't want to upset her (and I don't even know if it would upset her, just assuming it might).
Would it be unreasonable to ask DD for the ring? If she said it mattered to her to keep it there would be absolutely no question of my insisting - it has been a long time, I know, and that's why I want to get some thoughts please because i'm not sure. Thank you.
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Would I be unreasonable to ask her to give it back to me?
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Geekology · 23/01/2016 15:45
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