Wondering about text from dh

[Wonderingaboutthis]

A Friedan accidentally tex try husband thinking it was me as she had both our numbers inner phone. She doesn't know it was my husband.
She screen shot the texts saying how funny I was texting you but it wasn't.
Dh, after establishing that they didn't knew each other, and she apologised. Text back 'no problem, are you fit?' With a laughing smilie.

Should I say anything? I thought we were all good, except we haven't had sex in a while I suppose, but apart from that just daily life. No arguments, we don't really argue.

Or do I say nothing? Send a jokey text?

Have a friend coming over soon so might disappear for a while, and I have to work tonight so can't really start anything with dh tonight, he is out tomorrow and the kids are obviously here all weekend.

I never thought he would chest but then I never thought he would text a random like that either! :(

[Wonderingaboutthis]

Friend, my, text. And apologies for other typos. A little bit shocked and not sure how to deal with it or feel. Am all shaky. You will all probably tell me it is an over reaction but I am honestly shocked.

[WickedWax]

I'm not sure I understand your OP, sorry.

Your friend texts your DH by accident, thinking it was you. Your DH establishes with her via text that he's not the person she's meant to be texting (and he doesn't realise it's your friend). He then texts this stranger saying "no problem, are you fit?". Your friend then screenshots his message and sends it to you.

Is that correct?

[Potatoface2]

if she doesnt know your husband why does she have his number...im confused

[Wonderingaboutthis]

Yes.

She send it to me as she doesn't realise it is my husband. Nor did I when we were laughing about it until I actually looked at the other number and then realised. So now I probably have to tell her too.

[Wonderingaboutthis]

Thinking about it she probably has it due to dc and a party that was on when was at work.

[Wonderingaboutthis]

And what do I say to her?!

[WickedWax]

How can your friend not know its your husband when she has his number in her phone?

[Wonderingaboutthis]

She sent it to me saying this is funny, look I was texting you but it wasn't you.

[Wonderingaboutthis]

Because it was saved under my name.

[gleam]

I think she might have showed you deliberately?

[Wonderingaboutthis]

And she said where did my phone get this number from, how odd.

[Wonderingaboutthis]

Really? :(

I just lol'ed. then alter I looked again and saw that it was his number. I honestly didn't look at it the first time.

[SolsburyHell]

Don't say anything to her. Speak to your husband, tell him it has upset you and ask how he would have carried the conversation on.

[Wonderingaboutthis]

How do I approach it? Via text? Wait till we can talk? Not tonight as at work, not tomorrow as he is out/kids. Sunday I work/kids. So Monday? What do I say? How do I say it?

[Wonderingaboutthis]

Sorry for being pathetic.

[gleam]

Sorry, that was unclear.

I meant she may have realised it was your dh's number (as it was under your name) but passed it off as a joke to you. It's a difficult conversation to have otherwise...

[gleam]

I think it would shake a lot of people, Wondering.

[Wonderingaboutthis]

But then I look stupid for saying lol. And then she will think I am lying to her because I didn't look at the number. I honestly didn't. It was only after. Then I got shocked and am unable to do anything until I see what dh says?

[bodenbiscuit]

I would be upset too. I think you need to have it out with him.

[SolsburyHell]

Not via text. Probably best in person or at least over phone. Just tell him/show him.
If he's otherwise never given you any reason to not trust him, it may just have been an attempt at humour especially given the laughing smiley. It's not a marriage ender in itself but you may want to be a little bit more vigilant.

[Wonderingaboutthis]

Hard because I have home school ds here as well. Then friend over then school run for other children. Then work.

God I am actually shaking. I am so pathetic.

[firesidechat]

But they must have established who each other were in the subsequent messages. If you text someone by mistake from your contacts, then it's a given that you know either them or someone in the household.

[MissBattleaxe]

I'm confused. Can you explain the bit where the text was meant for you but was your husband's number? Do you share a mobile or something?

[Twitterqueen]

A bit of an over-exaggeration here I think. The txt from your DH was to someone he didn't know and he made an off-the-cuff remark to a complete stranger. I've had this myself when someone has accidentally txted me in error.

I would mention it but in a light-hearted way. i think you're over-thinking this and adding 2+2 and getting 10!

[Baressentials]

I would ask your DH now.

This is not aimed at you personally OP but so many of these threads are all about how the op cannot ask their dp due to time - it always has to be in 2-3 days time. This might because you need to get your head straight but really, in the next 4 days you don't have 5 minutes to say to your dh "why did you send a message saying are you fit?"

I, personally but then I have zero tolerance these days would phone him now and say straight "why did you text this message to my friend after she texted you in error?" Or I would ask him the minute you next saw him.

I can't imagine a scenario where someone would send that message to another, knowing they were a family friend/friend of dp and if they did it as a joke it would be followed up so I would assume they had sent it thinking it was a stranger and they were chancing it.