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Wondering about text from dh

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Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:16:10

A Friedan accidentally tex try husband thinking it was me as she had both our numbers inner phone. She doesn't know it was my husband.
She screen shot the texts saying how funny I was texting you but it wasn't.
Dh, after establishing that they didn't knew each other, and she apologised. Text back 'no problem, are you fit?' With a laughing smilie.

Should I say anything? I thought we were all good, except we haven't had sex in a while I suppose, but apart from that just daily life. No arguments, we don't really argue.

Or do I say nothing? Send a jokey text?

Have a friend coming over soon so might disappear for a while, and I have to work tonight so can't really start anything with dh tonight, he is out tomorrow and the kids are obviously here all weekend.

I never thought he would chest but then I never thought he would text a random like that either! sad

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:17:16

Friend, my, text. And apologies for other typos. A little bit shocked and not sure how to deal with it or feel. Am all shaky. You will all probably tell me it is an over reaction but I am honestly shocked.

WickedWax Fri 22-Jan-16 12:21:35

I'm not sure I understand your OP, sorry.

Your friend texts your DH by accident, thinking it was you. Your DH establishes with her via text that he's not the person she's meant to be texting (and he doesn't realise it's your friend). He then texts this stranger saying "no problem, are you fit?". Your friend then screenshots his message and sends it to you.

Is that correct?

Potatoface2 Fri 22-Jan-16 12:24:35

if she doesnt know your husband why does she have his confused

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:24:47


She send it to me as she doesn't realise it is my husband. Nor did I when we were laughing about it until I actually looked at the other number and then realised. So now I probably have to tell her too.

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:25:17

Thinking about it she probably has it due to dc and a party that was on when was at work.

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:25:46

And what do I say to her?!

WickedWax Fri 22-Jan-16 12:26:09

How can your friend not know its your husband when she has his number in her phone? confused

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:26:29

She sent it to me saying this is funny, look I was texting you but it wasn't you.

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:26:46

Because it was saved under my name.

gleam Fri 22-Jan-16 12:27:19

I think she might have showed you deliberately?

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:27:22

And she said where did my phone get this number from, how odd.

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:28:01

Really? sad

I just lol'ed. then alter I looked again and saw that it was his number. I honestly didn't look at it the first time.

SolsburyHell Fri 22-Jan-16 12:28:19

Don't say anything to her. Speak to your husband, tell him it has upset you and ask how he would have carried the conversation on.

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:29:58

How do I approach it? Via text? Wait till we can talk? Not tonight as at work, not tomorrow as he is out/kids. Sunday I work/kids. So Monday? What do I say? How do I say it?

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:30:21

Sorry for being pathetic.

gleam Fri 22-Jan-16 12:30:55

Sorry, that was unclear.

I meant she may have realised it was your dh's number (as it was under your name) but passed it off as a joke to you. It's a difficult conversation to have otherwise...

gleam Fri 22-Jan-16 12:31:59

I think it would shake a lot of people, Wondering. flowers

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:32:05

But then I look stupid for saying lol. And then she will think I am lying to her because I didn't look at the number. I honestly didn't. It was only after. Then I got shocked and am unable to do anything until I see what dh says?

bodenbiscuit Fri 22-Jan-16 12:33:06

I would be upset too. I think you need to have it out with him.

SolsburyHell Fri 22-Jan-16 12:33:27

Not via text. Probably best in person or at least over phone. Just tell him/show him.
If he's otherwise never given you any reason to not trust him, it may just have been an attempt at humour especially given the laughing smiley. It's not a marriage ender in itself but you may want to be a little bit more vigilant.

Wonderingaboutthis Fri 22-Jan-16 12:34:54

Hard because I have home school ds here as well. Then friend over then school run for other children. Then work.

God I am actually shaking. I am so pathetic.

firesidechat Fri 22-Jan-16 12:34:58

But they must have established who each other were in the subsequent messages. If you text someone by mistake from your contacts, then it's a given that you know either them or someone in the household.

MissBattleaxe Fri 22-Jan-16 12:36:12

I'm confused. Can you explain the bit where the text was meant for you but was your husband's number? Do you share a mobile or something?

Twitterqueen Fri 22-Jan-16 12:38:35

A bit of an over-exaggeration here I think. The txt from your DH was to someone he didn't know and he made an off-the-cuff remark to a complete stranger. I've had this myself when someone has accidentally txted me in error.

I would mention it but in a light-hearted way. i think you're over-thinking this and adding 2+2 and getting 10!

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