I think I'm going to ruin my relationship, been with my dp for the last 10 months and due to be moving in together next week.
Tonight after securing our new flat I picked him up from a work event we went to the pub (I was driving) and he ended up accidentally knocking my knee (not a huge thing to a normal person but I have chronic pain and a genetic joint condition so the result of this was incredible pain)
We ended up arguing as I drove us back to his and then took my meds as I needed to and wasn't really in any fit state to drive so I ended up staying at his flat.
I think I'm going to ruin this relationship, in the past my partners haven't been overly supportive of my condition and the associated pain even so far as denying that it exists or has any impact, my dp is but when something like this happens it causes so much physical pain, when I'm in pain I become a real bitch, I become very sarcastic and very blunt about the situation (though medication I take in this type of situation may play a part in that) don't mean to be I just can't seem to control that part of me.
Due to the condition I'm accessing counselling about the changes to my life and the current situation, he's been so supportive coming to all assessments and appointment with me I feel awful for blaming him when he hurts me as it is 100% accidental he would never hurt me on purpose.
We've talking about this since getting back to his and he does feel awful for accidentally knocking me, in a busy pub it was an accident waiting to happen and he feels guilty but I feel irrationally angry I feel so angry that this is now my life (the genetic thing was only recently diagnosed)
I don't cope well with pain, and I feel so guilty for pushing him away when he is trying to be supportive, any advice other then sticking with counselling?
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I think I'm going to ruin this (sorry long)
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Eeyore86 · 22/01/2016 00:53
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