I'm really really stuck in an abusive relationship, he has convinced my friends and family i'm going crazy and so I have no-one to turn to anymore. He's so charming, they don't believe what he puts me through. How can I get out? would like to hear from anyone who has been through this.
No, you don't understand, I don't live with him, I have my own home. I don't need to run away, he doesn't hit me. He messes with my head and threatens me, suffocates me, he comes here looks through my windows and sees every move I make. He takes photos of me. Im not doing anything wrong but its just such an invasion of privacy.
Break off the relationship....if you live alone what is stopping you from ending the relationship?
You can report this to the police as emotional abuse and harassment.
Start to take notes with dates, times and exactly what happens...what is said, etc. Keep anything that can corroborate what you are saying...texts/emails/etc.
What matters most at this point is ending the relationship and reporting this behaviour if it continues once the relationship has ended. It doesn't really matter if friends and family believe you does it?
Just tell friends and family it didn't work out...get support from here, find some local support groups of people who've been through the same thing, get a counsellor through your GP or Relate.
Definite first steps are to get him out of your life though. Change locks. Change your number. Let the police know. Write down anything that happens so that you can use this as evidence for restraining order if it's needed in the future.