Hi everyone
I don't post on here very often but this morning I am in a real pickle and would really appreciate any words of advice from anyone who has been in the same or similar situation.
OH and I have been together over 4 years. We both live in a flat with my DD who is nearly 8, the flat is in my name and he gives me money every month.
He earns an awful lot more than me but sometimes he can be so mean and tight. My divorce is going through this month and his has come to a grinding halt due to his ex saving up to take their kids on a massive holiday this year - I don't think she has any intention of letting the marital house go.
Basically I'm starting to feel like a convenience for him. I don't doubt his feelings for me at all, but he spends every spare minute he has visiting his kids. I feel disgusting for feeling resentful, but if he's not at work (he works three long days and has two weekdays and weekends off) he is over at the other house. His kids are nearly 15 and 18. Last night he announced that he is spending the whole weekend there this weekend, because they asked him to.
Again I'd like to stress that I feel disgusting for feeling so resentful. He refuses to even entertain the thought of buying a house with me, and is obsessed with getting the marital house back, which is about 15 miles away in a different area. Am I wasting my time? I'm 41 and I need to put down some roots, he is 46. I would love to hear from anyone, please.
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Which way to turn??? Any advice appreciated
mrsfleming32 · 21/01/2016 09:17
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