My husband is obsessed with buying a house, he is constantly on right move looking at property and talking about houses. I couldn't give a damn either way.
So a couple of months ago we where approved for a mortgage. A house in the caul-de-sac where we live had come up for sale, fantastic, we were getting it cheap and it was ideal as I have lived in this caul-de-sac for years and really don't want to leave. We currently rent from the council.
Anyway the sale fell through, without going into detail something happened which meant the owners had to stay in the property for another 6-12 months, it will eventually come onto the market again but it's going to take up to a year. DH said there was no way he was waiting, despite it being an absolute bargain with not much upheaval
So it's back to right move. He finds a house a few miles from where we live which admittedly is lovely (and I was initially taken with it but 1) it's more expensive 2) it's smaller 3) we will have to buy another car as its in the middle of nowhere and we both work in different towns. Anyway at the time, in my mind it was either "buy this house or end up in a bigger town near where we live now which is as rough as a badgers arse"
So we made an offer. It was accepted. Nothing has been signed yet or anything like that as we have only just got the valuation reports back.
DH has started packing stuff. Today was my day off work and he told me to start packing too, and as I got the boxes out I just started crying and pretty much haven't stopped all day. I feel devastated to be leaving where I live, truly upset at the thought, when I told DH he basically said "tough, it's done now"
I know I sound sad but I'm really fucking upset, it's hit me that I'll be moving from the street I love and won't live here any more, a place where all my neighbours are lovely, the sort of place you can leave your door unlocked and not have to worry, the sense of community. I am so bloody upset.
But DH is having none of it, it's his dream to own property and he wants to own it NOW, not in a few months down the line, NOW.
I actually don't know what to do with myself, I feel silly but at the same time I feel like saying "fuck off with ya property"
Is this actually normal? Do I need to get a grip?
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Somebody please either tell me to get a grip or give me advice
CorleoneGang · 19/01/2016 20:35
I think that if you are this upset about it, and he's not listening to you, then you have bigger issues than the house move 
I think the reasons you have for wanting to stay around like good ones, especially being in a supportive community and close to the school.
If nothing is signed, don't sign until you have been properly listened to. Buying a house is a big commitment. If you are not sure you want to do it, don't be pressured into this.
I'm sympathetic to your husband, because you did say yes (and it sounds like it was an enthusiastic yes at first) and he's obviously really excited. (and naïve if he's packing already 
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But at the end of the day, if you're not happy you have to tell him it's a no.
Tbh, even without the comment about liking your neighbours I don't see what this purchase has going for it. Especially for the kids being moved so far from school and presumably existing friends.
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