(NCd for this)
For the past two years, my wife and I have been firmly NC with her mother & partner. Following an incident where they physically assaulted us both. (Police were called, and the incident resolved with an admission from MiL).
The backstory is that MiL is controlling, abusive, definite NPD and (as we found out) a violent bully.
Over the past few months my wife has received the odd text message from her DM. The first was along the lines of "please contact me, even if it's to say you never want to see me again". Then one about a medical story that might be of interest to my wife (which wasn't needed, and MiL would know this). (Also a birthday and Xmas card which went straight to recycling) then a happy birthday one. Then a new year one. And today, another medical one.
My DW has no intention of replying, or ever making contact again (she is as stubborn as her mother ). So these are curious irritations.
Having realised MN is a treasure trove of shared experiences about such things, I wonder what the views of the wise are ? Is this behaviour indicative of a new tactic we've not encountered ? My gut sense, is it's some sort of boiling-water-frog situation, where accepting (i.e. not reacting) to these small overtures is being stored up for a bigger attempt later.
The nuclear option would be to make an official complaint to the police about harassment. Maybe we're being tested to see if this is what we would do ?
I can't say how, but we know they (MiL and partner) have been advised by the police not to come near our house. (And I would be on the phone to the police immediately).
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Drip-drip contact, after NC ?
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FirstOfManyNameChanges · 19/01/2016 10:25
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