When he got home, my ex used to take off his trousers and sit around with bare legs. He had these really long baggy vests and it looked like he was wearing a skirt. Now I'm in a new relationship, long enough for us not to be on our absolute best behaviour any more, and it seems the new man is most comfortable with his t-shirt rucked up over his stomach and his belly on display.
Now I have no problem with a belly, but it reminds me of my ex and how it felt like I wasn't important enough to make any effort for. I'd always at least make an effort to tame my hair and put on a dressing gown at breakfast but he'd be there just in a vest, hunched over his bowl and slopping his food. I felt like if I'd dressed and acted the same way he'd have been entitled to complain that his wife was letting herself go.
The new man still making an effort in other ways and he has no vest. But is this something I should be calling him up on (how??)? Is it just because I don't complain about these things that men think they need to make no effort? Or am I just being picky, and actually it just means they're relaxed? Men aren't expected to watch out for these things quite as much, are they?
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Is it normal for your dp to lounge around in a state of undress?
ravenmum · 18/01/2016 13:24
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