DH and I have been married over 11 years. He went back home to Turkey around 10 days ago to see his family and new baby niece. I knew something was wrong when it was always me initiating contact.
He has just text to say that he is contemplating not coming home. He said that he is unhappy, that he has sacrificed so much for me and that the kids and I take him
for granted. He said he looks at his friends marriages and they are all so happy.
He says all I ever do is complain about losing my parents and looking after the kids. I will admit- I find it very bloody hard at times. DS 8 and DDs 7 and 5 can be a handful when you don't have a single relative who you can call on for help. I lost my Dad when I was 16 and my Mum when I was 23 and I can feel very lonely at times, but I certainly try my damn hardest to pull through and live with a DH who can be hard work himself at times.
He says I don't pay him enough attention and I don't care. He does everything to make me happy and he doesn't feel the same. He is a fantastic husband but I am not a bionic woman and I can only do so much.
What the hell am I supposed to do now? His messages were typed in a way that made me think he had been drinking although I can't be sure. I now have 3 kids to see to, a marriage hanging in the balance and not a single person I can open up to it about. I have sat and stared at my telephone for the past hour because I just don't know what to do
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11 years of marriage over?
chinchiii · 17/01/2016 18:21
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