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Well you can... KISS MY ARSE!

(12 Posts)
kissmyassdh Sun 17-Jan-16 10:58:13

We're at the very end of our divorce, deadline is monday, dividing assets, putting utilities in new names etc. Wanker ex dh has just demanded I prove I've done it all as he has no 'proof' I've done anything at all. All utilities are now in my name but it's all online these days. He must have had severence notices from them. & surely it's up to him to make sure he's not paying the gas & electric on a house he no longer lives in? & to top it all off, he needs to clear out his crap from his old bedroom. He's keeping it here like the controlling bastard he is, keeping a toehold in the old house he was forced to leave. It took me a long time to man-up & realise I was being abused & controlled. Now I'm free, I just want to yell 'FFFFUUUUCCCKKKK OOOFFFFF'. angry

I'm gonna napalm his old bedroom. <evil> grin

pocketsaviour Sun 17-Jan-16 11:32:07

What a fuckwit.

OK, if you think he might sabotage something tomorrow, I'd go into the utility accounts online and take a screenshot of the account details and email them to him.

If he's just being a dick for the sake of it, then don't respond whatsoever.

HandyWoman Sun 17-Jan-16 11:47:12

Oh I recognise this passive, inadequate yet controlling personality. Such a drain!

Why don't you use today to bag up the crap in his room and give him a deadline to collect it from the front garden?

I found ridding my house of all evidence of him the most cathartic thing.

Good on you, OP grin

MoreGilmoreGirls Sun 17-Jan-16 11:49:50

Yep bag it up leave it out front if he does not collect off to the tip it all goes.
All he needs to do is stop his direct debits. I hope you're having a big party once the decree absolut comes through!
Good luck with your new asshole free life grin

kissmyassdh Sun 17-Jan-16 11:51:23


Ahhh, that feels better.....

I think I might go to the expense of having his face printed in colour on a toilet roll............

kissmyassdh Sun 17-Jan-16 11:53:14

I always used to think 'Absolute' parties were in bad taste but I'm beginning to feel a big one coming on....

Thank fuck I got out of that....

dudsville Sun 17-Jan-16 11:53:36

God I remember that feeling. And whenever I see him I'm reminded what a good decision I made!

Gobbolino6 Sun 17-Jan-16 11:59:34

What a massive twat. I'd bag up his stuff and give him a deadline to collect before it will be placed outside.

Jux Sun 17-Jan-16 14:06:23

Definitely bag up his stuff.

Can you print the utility accounts? Take them in with you and flourish them in his face if it turns out you really do need them?

abbsismyhero Sun 17-Jan-16 15:44:39

hum this and tell him he received the notification you don't need to prove anything really and give him 7 days to collect shite or else

Bogeyface Sun 17-Jan-16 16:01:33

Tell him that you will provide proof when he removes his stuff from your house and btw where does he want the invoice for the storage sent?

DoreenLethal Sun 17-Jan-16 16:04:52

I would respond with 'No idea why you are so fussed about that - what you should be fussed about is ALL your stuff which is on the lawn. It might not last another snowfall so perhaps pull your finger out and come and get it. Ciao'. Then chuck his stuff on the lawn, and block his number from your phone. Put the kettle on, and sit down and watch some TV. Call the police if there is any trouble.

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