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parent stresses help

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edwfaith Fri 15-Jan-16 17:36:56

So my due date has been and gone 40+3, I'm a young first time mum and I live with my partner about 4 hours away from my mum and dad. My mum came up the night before my due date and stayed for three nights till Friday, now don't get me wrong I completely appreciate and love my mum and everything she does for me, I appreciate that she has driven a long way to see me and this is probably why it makes me feel so bad but when she told me that my dad was thinking of coming the following Tuesday I just felt a overwhelmed by it. I feel like I wanted more alone time before baby comes with my partner and I want to be able to lie around in my underwear and clean the house and watch rubbish on TV ect ect. I just felt a bit like my personal space was being invaded. Besides I'm on MAT leave but my partner goes to work during the week so if my dad was to stay round it would be a squeeze with both of them getting ready to travel to work in the morning (my dad was going to stay round because he has work about an hour from my house) AND I could go into labour, hospital, at any time... I just feel like I want some space to be able to get everything in order before baby, it's not because I don't want to see my parents, I do, and I want them to be a part of my life and my baby's life... now my mum left really upset and its going to be even worse when she tells my dad that I don't want people staying over until the baby is born. My partner thinks I am being horrible and I feel like a horrible person... I just don't know if what I'm feeling is reasonable or whether I AM being horrible and I don't know how to explain it to my mum that I love her and want her to be around but I just feel like having some personal space at home with my partner right now.

springydaffs Fri 15-Jan-16 22:35:11

Did you arrange for your mum to come over or did she just turn up?

I don't think you're being at all unreasonable - as long as you told her kindly you didn't want her there yet?

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