Off to see my solicitor on Mon to talk about separation. Have posted a fair bit on MN but with another username. DH continues to stalk me on MN so an all new user name changed from my usual posting name. Essentially unreasonable behaviour, to the point of ticking things on the emotional abuse lists (though not all) and some pretty significant attempts at financial control even though we both earn well and own 2 houses - the family house where I +DS (2) live all the time, close to my work, and DH's flat 3 hrs away where he stays a few nights a week some weeks for work. We're married. Big problems with him actually parenting - never does any night waking, rarely changes a nappy, has left DS in one wet nappy all day, forgets to give him anything to drink, I could go on but its all old. Essentially he refuses to engage about our problems with sulking for weeks. At Christmas on the last row I was very calm and said "this is no way to live, we must end this, it is harming and hurting DS if nothing else" told me he refuses to get divorced.
First solicitor appointment I could get is Mon. I have to bring details of finance and proof of address. What else should I be prepared with? Should I be telling her about my concerns for DS? I don;t think it would be at all good for him to be doing overnights regularly (and in fact next Fri will be my first night away from him in 2 years and I'm really worried DH won't comfort him when he cries and will just get cross with him.)
By the by DS has been a terrible sleeper for his 2 years mainly due to bad eczema and allergies, we've had to co-sleep to get any sanity and I'm still BFing. I think DH thinks this is evidence of my totally unreasonable behaviour.
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Isaintheshop · 15/01/2016 10:06
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