Ideas for a first date, very nervous...

[backonthebikeagain]

Ive been chatting to a great guy for a while now. He is waiting for me to sort out childcare before he takes me out!

I dont like the idea of a meal or drinks though. What else could we do?! Im sooooo nervous :(

[NameChange30]

What is it you don't like about the idea of going for drinks or a meal? That would help us suggest things you do like the sound of.

If it wasn't winter I'd suggest going for a nice walk somewhere, because somehow it's easier to talk to someone when you're walking alongside them rather than sitting looking at them! But I wouldn't suggest this unless you're both into winter walks.

Again, it depends what you're both into, but you could go to an art gallery or museum - that'll give you something to look at and talk about.

My main advice is to do something you'll enjoy and do your best to relax! If you like each other it won't really matter what you're doing. And if you don't like each other at least you'll have given it a shot.

[HerRoyalNotness]

Do an activity so you are distracted by that. How about ten pin bowling? You can have a beer and relax a little.

[HerRoyalNotness]

Oooh if you have snow where you are, go sledding, pack a thermos or hip flask for warming up after. Or go for a walk in snow field, snow ball fight, snow angels etc, make it daft and fun

[PushingThru]

I think drinks is perfect because you really do need to talk to someone on a first date to find out what they're like & if you drink alcohol, a couple of glasses of something will oil the wheels a little bit. Why are you worried about that?

[pocketsaviour]

I don't like to drink on a first date - you might need to make an early escape in the car! I like to do coffee lunch dates so then you're restricted on time in case it's awful, but can set up a next date if it's good :)

[Cabrinha]

Cinema is rubbish for a proper get to know you, but great if you want distraction then an easy conversation starter.

[backonthebikeagain]

We have no snow :( I have always hated dating! It just feels like im under pressure! A walk is a great idea, if its not raining!

[WeeHelena]

I like walking dates with coffee stop at some point, with walking, if it's not going nice you can make your excuses and bail before getting stuck at coffee stage.

Pick somewhere scenic or tourist attractions and go for it.

[ALaughAMinute]

Don't forget that he will be nervous too even if he doesn't show it!

A quick drink or a coffee is a usually a good idea for a first date because it's easy to escape if you don't like him.

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. If you don't like each other, so what? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Good luck.

[JeanSeberg]

I wouldn't treat the first meet as a date. Quick coffee to see if you have enough in common and get on well enough to organise a proper date as the next stage.

[backonthebikeagain]

We do know each other though so I dont think I will bail. Maybe a few drinks rather then a meal would be ok. Ah, I hate all of this. I wish I could just skip it!

The last guy I was seeing I didnt date either! He came over and we watched a film, it was actually really nice. Can I do the same this time?!!

[ALaughAMinute]

If you invite him to your place to watch a film he might think you are trying to get him into bed. As it doesn't sound as if you are ready to have sex with him right now, I think you should stick to coffee or a drink on mutual territory.

[JeanSeberg]

Where's the effort in that though?

[Trills]

You want to date him, but you don't want to go on "a date"?

What do you want to do with him?

[goddessofsmallthings]

!He is waiting for me to sort out childcare before he takes me out!"

Organise childcare, tell him what time you'll be available, and leave him to decide where he's taking you.

[TooSassy]

I second what goddess said.

[backonthebikeagain]

Right, you have all made me see sense and I will arrange something this evening and will let him know :)