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Court tomorrow

(76 Posts)
ConfusedNoMore Wed 13-Jan-16 22:40:47

Hello

I don't know if anyone remembers my posts. I was ConfusedNc. Posted a lot over last couple of years.

EA stbxh ended marriage in 2014. Changed the locks. Made me and ds homeless. This was in middle of most stressful job interview, but I miraculously managed to get job .

X has been the most amazingly narcissistic bully and frankly, idiot. Tomorrow I finally see him in court.

All feels bit surreal.

Just after a bit of a last hurrah before battle from anyone who remembers me. Wellwhoknew was going through it around same time everything kicked off for me. I am hoping to channel her and the formidiblemrsc and all of you women fucked over by a selfish lying manchild, and stand up for myself and my boy. Wwk was just an inspiration in her court case.

Lots of you helped me figure my head out in my darkest times. I'm doing OK but hope I'm ready for what's about to happen. Thanks if you've read this far. Sorry if I'm being a bit self indulgent.

Feels like the calm before the storm.

RandomMess Wed 13-Jan-16 22:43:08

I remember you, will have the poms poms out for you tomorrow!

amarmai Wed 13-Jan-16 22:52:17

cheering you and your son on ,op. On to victory!

Hillfarmer Wed 13-Jan-16 22:52:46

Stay calm and hold your head up OP, you will be fine. You have everything to be proud of. And you will get justice.

ConfusedNoMore Wed 13-Jan-16 23:10:26

Thanks for support. Means a lot. Best get some sleep.

It's only first appointment at court but it has taken such a lot to get here.

flowers

tipsytrifle Wed 13-Jan-16 23:16:59

Think I may have posted on your thread but no matter. Here now and sending you a huge cloud of courage to wrap around your precious self tomorrow (today by the time you read, if you get chance)

Be proud, be YOU all the way and beyond!

Mysteryfla Wed 13-Jan-16 23:26:00

“The strongest steel is forged by the fires of hell. It is pounded and struck repeatedly before it's plunged back into the molten fire. The fire gives it power and flexibility, and the blows give it STRENGTH. Those two thing make the metal pliable and able to withstand every battle it's called upon to fight.”

Courage, you've acquired the strength!

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Thu 14-Jan-16 00:06:55

Strength for you OP, and contemplate Eowyn stabbing the Witch King inna face.

"NO MORTAL MAN AM I!"
Squelch, crunch, gargle "eeeee...."

I always like to picture Hulk bashing Loki around and then saying "puny god".

Or Tony Stark landing on Obediah's suit, yanking something out and saying "this looks important".

Best of luck!

ConfusedNoMore Thu 14-Jan-16 08:54:07

grin thanks all. Love those images and quotes. Mystery, where does that come from? Amazing quote. Also love squelch crunch gargle eeeee! I might remember that easier!

It's at 2pm so I'm going to walk dog and then 'gather' as Kate winslet put it.

Well, how did it go, then? >draws up chair<

wallywobbles Fri 15-Jan-16 05:39:43

Good luck.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Fri 15-Jan-16 05:48:46

Hope you have a SHL and wiped the floor with him! Seriously, how did it go?

ConfusedNoMore Fri 15-Jan-16 08:42:08

Sorry didn't update yesterday. I was really emotional after and just exhausted last night.

The actual bit with the judge was really brief. He accepted our questionnaire (so hopefully will find out more about what the lying git has been up to) and we added some more in too. Next step we're going to FDR ( financial dispute resolution). So in theory yesterday went my way.

I'll update rest later. Got to go work. I'm also seeing therapist later so maybe I'll be more articulate in next post.

Big thank you for support.flowers

Brilliant!

And did you visualise anything?

WellWhoKnew Fri 15-Jan-16 21:18:13

Hello,

I've been busy with wurk rather than on MN so I completely missed this til just now...but some very kind MNetter contacted me to say I'd been name-dropped and I'm so glad she did! Your thread 'Twattish things..." popped up awhile ago which had me reminiscing, and giggling like a loon, and wondering about you.

I always love it when a MNetter grabs her steel balls, goes to court and kicks a fuckwit into touch! It is very, very, very stressful and difficult getting divorced - and emotional as well. A few days later you have a 'mini-crash' of emotions...but it does end. And life goes on.

You seem a lot stronger than a year ago...which is great. I hope things continue to get better and better for you and your little one.

You've got my name if you need to PM!

WWK

PS MrsC is good too. We're still in touch regularly. Her fuckwit?...well he hasn't had any epiphanies with regard to his idiocy I'm sad to report. MrsC, however, goes from strength to strength (largely because she's become some kind of fitness freak...).

RandomMess Fri 15-Jan-16 21:36:20

WWK thanks for dropping by I always wonder how you and MrsC are doing!!!

TheFormidableMrsC Fri 15-Jan-16 22:18:07

Hi there! I have also just had a heads up of being name-dropped...so sorry I didn't see this thread before otherwise I would have been here much sooner and certainly before court! Well done for your first appearance Confused, I hope you're OK. It's such a terrifying moment, I found the build up to be worse than the actual event to be honest. I hope you had a kind and sympathetic Judge and look forward to your update on it (when you're good and ready of course!). Will be right by your side all the way smile.

Random...bless you! I am doing well, not quite there yet, but legals are over for now. WWK remains my friend evil sidekick and I should reiterate, I couldn't have got through any of this shit without her. Particularly my FDR where she wiped the proverbial floor with my ex-h. So, overall we're doing great! smile

bobs123 Fri 15-Jan-16 22:28:59

Hi OP. I remember you from last year. Good for you getting through the first Hearing. If the judge accepted all your questions that's good - shows they are all reasonable things to ask. Hopefully all will get sorted at the FDR.

I had over 2 years of procrastinating divorce shit. In the end I took my Xtwat to court and self repped. I couldn't have done it without help from here, especially WWK and MrsC. Xtwat finally saw the light at the FDR and I was divorced end of October.

Well done you getting the job and holding it down smile

TheFormidableMrsC Fri 15-Jan-16 22:40:41

...I also second WWK with the post-court "crash" shizzle. You may well feel like this...you kind of get an initial euphoria and then after feel a bit overwhelmed, it happens to everybody and it does pass, so don't stress if you feel like this. Again, PM available should you need it.

You've come a million miles...don't forget it! flowers

WellWhoKnew Fri 15-Jan-16 23:34:49

Evil Sidekick MrsC? I am so kicking your arse next week...

If it transpires I'm wurking in your neck of the woods

<But I'm not telling you about my sprained ankle/bad back/cold that means you might beat me>

Confused if there's anything you want support with - do post here. Bobs is one of the crew who proves MN is a brilliant community.

ConfusedNoMore Fri 15-Jan-16 23:55:47

Ohhhhhh how lovely to hear from you. Iythought. I just posted but am very pissed after fab night with ver fab friend si poss posyed on random thread!! . Will try and be coherent 2m. The dog's is now whinging and farting with gusto. Chat 2m lovelies xxgrinwinewine

TheFormidableMrsC Sat 16-Jan-16 00:11:56

LOL Confused...that is the best bit of pissed shit I have ever seen grin.

WWK...you've got the sofa wink. And a face mask. smile

WellWhoKnew Sat 16-Jan-16 00:36:04

LOL LOL and LOL

You post whenever you want sweetheart! You've made me chortle and some! When you're up for sensible typing...we'll still be around!

Go have a great life...

Just so you know...

Mrsc whinges and farts with gusto...

<fuck off with relegating me to your sofa MrsC>

TheFormidableMrsC Sat 16-Jan-16 01:17:30

I have NEVER farted!! I might start though...^definitely relegated to sofa^...grin xx

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