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What does this mean???

(21 Posts)
bigbeniswatchingyou Tue 12-Jan-16 20:05:57

Hi there!

I'm a new mum with a new baby. Very proud and happy. I'm sociable, I tend to stay in touch with my 'ex's'. Recently an 'ex' asked me how I was. I replied that I was SOO happy, difficult birth but beautiful child - how are you? He replaied that he has a new gf - she is a doctor - she has been telling him all about 'vaginal tearing'. What the HELL does that mean????

Only1scoop Tue 12-Jan-16 20:07:47

Sounds like he's referring to birth stories she's been telling him.

How lovely

BackInTheRealWorld Tue 12-Jan-16 20:08:21

What does vaginal tearing mean? It means when your fanny ends up like chopped liver after birthing

RoganJosh Tue 12-Jan-16 20:08:52

What do you mean,what does he mean?

bigbeniswatchingyou Tue 12-Jan-16 20:10:15

Yes - nasty. But why put that in a message to me??? How inappropriate!

MaisieDotes Tue 12-Jan-16 20:11:25

Maybe because you mentioned a difficult birth?

bigbeniswatchingyou Tue 12-Jan-16 20:12:28

So is that a normal response??

NerrSnerr Tue 12-Jan-16 20:13:48

I wonder if it was a big tongue in cheek because your message sounded a bit smug, how soo happy you are.

MaisieDotes Tue 12-Jan-16 20:14:03

I'm not saying it's ok btw! But maybe that's what he thought of?

I always tell people my births were sunshine and lollipops. Only my nearest and dearest know the truth. I don't want randomers imagining me during the pushing stage grin

Soooosie Tue 12-Jan-16 20:14:23

Answer 'That sounds painful!'

bigbeniswatchingyou Tue 12-Jan-16 20:33:58

Ok, so it was a 'humourous' response to me being smug.

Only1scoop Tue 12-Jan-16 20:37:27

Not sure

AnyFucker Tue 12-Jan-16 20:38:50

It sounds like a bit of a strange conversation all round, tbh

I wouldn't give an ex such intimate information and he sounds a bit weird

Cabrinha Tue 12-Jan-16 20:41:25

What an odd post.
How can anyone possibly tell you what he meant by it?
You're the one that dated him!

It could range from he was always a nasty abusive man who just wants to bring you down and make you feel shit about your body and self, to a lovely guy who is just light heartedly saying "ouch".

FWIW my own midwife said "looks like a dog's dinner down here" - it was just her sense of humour and after 4 hours with me, she judged correctly that it would go down OK with me.

You're the best judge of what he meant!

bigbeniswatchingyou Tue 12-Jan-16 20:56:12

That's the issue! I have no idea what he meant. I would hope - light hearted.

Only1scoop Tue 12-Jan-16 20:57:28

I don't think I'd give it much more thought to be honest.

I might not give him any finer details though

bigbeniswatchingyou Tue 12-Jan-16 21:00:46

Light hearted but sinister?

AnyFucker Tue 12-Jan-16 21:16:37

My advice is to stop sharing intimate details with exes. They are exes for a reason.

SongBird16 Tue 12-Jan-16 22:11:13

I can't see anything sinister in it at all. It sounds like a light-hearted joke. Tbh I find it more odd that it bothered you to the extent of posting about it.

twirlypoo Tue 12-Jan-16 22:26:15

I think your over thinking it. Congratulations on your new baby, but maybe just keep things a little less personal for ex's - and try not to over analyse their responses either!

SelfLoathing Tue 12-Jan-16 22:37:49

pretty weird of you to tell your EX about your birth issues so really what do you expect?

Doesn't sound like you are really "friends" otherwise you'd be able to read him properly and know what he meant. If you were "friends" you'd also know he had a new gf who was a dr.

Fact is you aren't friends in any sense. What you meant is for your own perculiar reasons you have opted to stay in touch with an ex and pretend to yourself you are "friends". Why would you do this? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Do you feel like you have a back up plan in case your current relationship doesn't work out?

This person isn't really serving any positive benefit to you by staying in touch is he? I'd cut him off and think no more about it.

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