Ok, it's a bit of a long story but here goes.
Met a really nice local man on a dating site. He was very nervous as not had anything serious for a while and had become quite independent but due to circumstances things moved fast.
Met 2 of 3 DC (older) quickly but only because they live with him and I was at his house a lot.
At Christmas his family invited me around for dinner (mine live a long way away so wasn't seeing them). So pre Christmas (23rd) we went away overnight, then spent Christmas Eve at his, next day at his families (brother, mum etc) Boxing Day and next day also doing stuff with his family inc a party he wanted me to go too so I could meet his other DC. All the time I stayed at his only popping home to feed the cat.
Then on the Monday he said he needed a little space, just some time to himself, which I didn't panic too much about because I understood it was moving fast and we'd already talked about his fears.
Then 2 days later (there was lots of texts and FB messaging in that time, just normal stuff) I got a message saying the "wobbles haven't gone away, it shouldn't be this hard, didn't want to call or F2F as he'd bottle it but it was over, one of the loveliest people he knows, want to remain friends etc"
I was understandably upset and annoyed, that's a shitty thing to do IMHO. I said I didn't want to remain friends. Also we'd been planning to see my sister that week so I found it humiliating going on my own after the big build up
But he started messaging again a couple of days later. You know the stuff, "I know I said I wouldn't contact you but hope you're alright" etc. He also spent a lot of time looking at my FB profile and asking if we'd gone to the same places as I had with an ex, I'd joked about him stalking me (I don't consider it stalking really, if you put it on FB then stop complaining if someone looks at it I say)
However, we had tickets for a show last weekend and gradually started chatting again and ended up going, after meeting the night before just to check that when I saw him I didn't feel like punching him in the face.
So, we went, all was nice, like it was before but without the physical contact.
He asked me to go to another show later in the year with him and now we've bought tickets.
The thing is, I really like(d) him and I'm still not sure the friends thing works for me, it feels forced. I hope I would have the strength not to have him back if he said that's what he wanted but I don't know.
We message constantly, like we did when we were together inc xx at the end of each one.
Sorry to burden you all with such a petty problem but I just need some dispassionate opinions. What the hells going on here?
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Nicola2505 · 12/01/2016 06:38
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