I realise I keep babbling on here, but I have not a lot of real life support.
I went to see the solicitor today, I feel much more in control and more certain of what to do.
However, now DH knows that I went and has turned into a raging nasty piece of work all over again, threatening suicide, jacking in our business, refusing to earn any money so he doesn't have to pay me anything.. His life is over etc etc... He has stormed out again to the pub, inspire of me saying that the kids are asking questions and we need to talk to them.
What the hell happens now?, he is not prepared to be reasonable. I don't have any money to fight him in court, which is the bottom line.
He wanted 50/50 of the kids, but solicitor advised as our daughter is disabled she needs stability at home with me, her primary carer and then we can arrange when he sees them, I mentioned this as he asked me what had been said and he went berserk and told me there is no way in hell that is happening, and he will see me in court, how dare I tell him he can't see the kids!!
Wtf? I didn't even say that, I don't want to limit contact, they just need a stable home... i am so tired of his shit, twisting everything I say..
Please please advise me from others in this situation, What else can I do. He said he would rather go bankrupt than give me and the kids a penny. What should my next move be?
I just went back to your previous thread and I see I predicted his behaviour uncannily accurately I hope that reassures you that it's part of an abuser's script and you're doing the right thing. Hundreds, probably thousands of women here on the MN board have been told the exact same thing by abusive ex's, but guess what, we're all still here, with our kids, with a roof over our heads and enough to eat, and in many cases very happily remarried to a decent fella.
Did you tell him about the solicitor you saw, or did he find out through spying on you?