I have namechanged for this.
DH and I have been together for 14 years. I have a DC from a previous relationship, who is 18, and we have 2 DCs together who are 8 and 5.
DH pulled his weight before we had our first child together, was ok-ish after she was born but really since then he has got lazier and lazier, lounging around all the time unless he is doing something he wants to do, and leaving everything to me.
I know it probably sounds mad but I feel quite lonely and also overwhelmed that everything is left to me all the time. He will never say "come on kids, get your bikes, we'll go for a bike ride" or play with the DCs, or do anything organisational at all. And of course he does nothing in the house. At all.
When I gave birth to our youngest child I was quite poorly afterwards having had a PPH, and literally while I was in hospital DH did nothing. I came home from hospital to a house with no food in, that hadn't been cleaned or tidied in the slightest, no laundry done, nothing. And I was expected to just fit back into the routine of food shopping, cooking, cleaning. After my PPH my iron levels were so low I could barely think straight, let alone start to plan meals etc. I would just have loved a few days of DH taking everything in hand, and me just being able to rest and recover. He had a week off work but spent the whole time playing computer games and doing things he wanted to do.
Yesterday I came down with a bad cold/cough/temperature and spent the whole day feeling awful until mid afternoon when I gave in and went to lay down. DH did absolutely nothing to prepare for today even though I was ill, and still am ill today (I took the day off work as I have no voice and feel rough). I just felt overwhelmed and tearful this morning coming downstairs to mess, muck, literally nothing had been done to get kids school stuff ready for today.
Like I said, I would just love one Sunday morning for him to get up and just announce he's going to take the kids out/do an activity with them, or even for him to him to just start preparing a meal at a mealtime. I have to think for everyone and it is seriously pissing me off.
I am starting to think that I would be better off on my own with the kids, as his lounging around and apathetic attitude just grinds me down.
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Feeling so alone and fed up as DH leaves everything to me
cranberrycheeseadict · 11/01/2016 16:28
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