I wrote about this before. I've been in an on off relationship for some time and the last time I saw my 'ex' was in November. I haven't heard or seen him since. I sent him a text about a week after that and got no reply. At the time I thought 'sod you then' as he has history for cutting people out of his life. However as time went on I began to wonder if he was actually ok? I sent a couple of emails, one fairly recently and again got no reply. He's not on social media so I can't even see if he's ok that way. We have no mutual friends. At this point I'm reluctant to call him or visit him as it's likely he has dumped me by silence and I could get more hurt by his response. But I am thinking about it a lot. What should I do?
Call, but prepare your little speech in advance - "Oh, hi, it's me - don't worry, I'm not calling to bother you, I literally wanted to see if you were dead or alive, and you're clearly alive so that answers my question! OK, I won't phone again, bye!"
He's just not that into you, sorry. Don't contact him - he's either ok and not bothered about you, so don't give him the satisfaction, or he is dead in which case there is nought you can do - you know that is highly unlikely, don't you?
I was seeing a guy for a few months, everything seemed great and then suddenly I stopped hearing from him and had no idea whether it was because something had happened to him or whether he'd just lost interest. Apparently it's quite a common thing in the dating world, so much so that it even has a name - 'ghosting'.
I think you need to write him off, but if you know where he lives I'd be tempted to just go and check that he's alive. When you find that he is you'll be able to write him off as a complete tosser and move on rather than wondering.
I had never been to my boyfriend's place as we always met halfway or he came to my place (this should have rung alarm bells for me I know!) and he isn't on social media so I literally have no way of confirming whether he is dead or a dickhead. Having raked over everything I've come to the conclusion it's most likely the latter.
My dsis had one of these a few years ago. After 18 months of dating, he went completely silent on her. She wound herself up in knots over many weeks, coming to the conclusion that he might be dead. He had in fact returned to his wife and didn't tell my dsis because he "didn't want her to make a scene".
If he has a history of it then it's more likely he's just being a rude idiot, but you could try Googling him and see if an obituary comes up, too. (May be an age thing but it's something I've wondered about before with online dating where you also don't have mutual friends ... after a newish bf who seemed to be sulking for the afternoon turned out to have been in hospital...)
Without meaning to sound harsh, he's either dead (hopefully not) or he just doesn't want to see you. From your point of view the end result is the same. Do you have any reason to think he might be dead? Was he ill? He has the right not too see you if he doesn't want to and you should respect that, hard though it is
Yes, to put it bluntly - does it matter? I understand that the desire to know must be very frustrating, but the end result is the same. Your relationship is over. It ended for him in November. When is it going to end for you?
He's got no balls, respect or manners. Dead or ignoring you, what difference does it make? - not a dot in your life either way because nothings changed. You need to move on to someone else who wants to be with you and can make you happy - he's not the only one, no matter how good you thought it was.
Its quite simple, trust me on this one, if someone wants to be with you, they will and you won't be in any doubt. Get a real man not an immature boy in a mans body.
He's dumped you a few times before and you still want him?! This "relationship" was shit. Work on raising your expectations of relationships and move on. Do not contact him again; if he's dead he won't read your emails and texts, and if he's alive he doesn't care about you.