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We have a challenging DS (7), no SN and probably within the normal range of childhood behaviours. 'D'H and I differ in our approach/management to this behaviour - I have read lots of behaviour books, have reached out to a friend who works in this field and am currently on a parenting course which has been very helpful (H could not take time off work to do the course). H will not read the literature despite me asking him to, he doesn't take on board my suggestions or advice from the course. Still have flare ups from DS, which I deal with as I have been advised. DS settles down and we move on. If it is H that deals with it, he gets angry, shouts, is intimidating at worst, yet doesn't register that this Aggravates and escalates the problem (even though I have explained this to him).
I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall. This has been going on for months, if not years. should I expect him to ever have a lightbulb moment and change his ways?
Also have a DD (3). DH loves the kids but due to working hours (and an active social life) isn't around much to participate in family life. And when he is, every weekend is like Groundhog Day - arguments with DS, then sulking etc.
To complicate matters our marriage (10 years, together for 20) is generally unhappy, possibly due to the family dynamics and behaviour patterns, but also due to other selfish behaviours of H. I don't know how long is a reasonable time to keep trying. Deep down I've had enough, but want to do right by everyone.
Has anyone else been in a similar position? Really don't know what to do for the best.
Thanks for reading.
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Familymatters2016 · 09/01/2016 15:20
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