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Couples counseling

(6 Posts)
hownottofuckup Fri 08-Jan-16 23:14:59

Would anyone mind sharing how it was for you?
I was really set on the idea, but now I think I'd probably rather chew my own arm off rather then go.
In my head, I still think I probably 'should' push for it anyway. It's just a bit scary.

Marchate Fri 08-Jan-16 23:45:26

Depends what the issue is. If there's any form of abuse, it's an absolute NO to joint counselling

Some of us have lived with the results for years, before finding out it's a pre written script for abusive partners. They control the counselling session by playing the 'poor me' game

Pomegranatemolasses Sat 09-Jan-16 00:11:44

Utterly useless. Counselling for me, alone is what helping. Really depends on your relationship and what the issues are, and your partner's willingness to address them.

hownottofuckup Sat 09-Jan-16 00:20:31

I've been doing counselling alone and it's really helped. I was so positive about doing it too when it was just for me but now, not so much.
The relationship has been abusive but some of that is down to me (i'm co-dependant)
I have suggested he takes the DC whilst I persue my career as that is what he's previously threatened offered, but he's not so keen.
It's been going on for 5 years! I just want to do something to make the situation move on. Together or apart I don't mind just as long as it's one or the other.
Thank you for replies too

Marchate Sat 09-Jan-16 00:22:56

Keep going yourself. Never with an abusive partner

hownottofuckup Sat 09-Jan-16 06:43:49

Well now I've woken up to discover he's disappeared!
He doesn't live here so might have just gone home, leaving all the lights on and the back door unlocked and his tobacco behind, which is odd. And he'd been drinking so shouldn't have driven.

I don't know whether he's just being an idiot making a point or if I should actually be concerned.

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