Let me give you the basics: we've been together 6 and 1/2s, we have 2 sons, one 5 one 6 months. In October I found out he had not been telling the full truth about his credit card debt. I knew he had one, but only a couple of thousand. Turns out he had 3, I looked in his wallet. He only admitted to 2, and the total debt being 12k. He persuaded me the third was an old card and it was only the 2 credit cards that had the debt.
Lots of talking, arguing, crying. We resolved it, he got a debt consolidation and included my (small in comparison) credit card inc too.
Fast forward to today, the debt consolidation letter came, addressed to both of us, I opened it. There are 4 cards on there, mine, the 2 he's admitted to and of course, the 3rd one he made me think I was crazy and swore didn't exist.
I'm stuck. He had every opportunity to admit to the 3 cards, and I'm not sure why he'd admit to 12k debt but not 14k ( my estimate to what the debt really is) I understand he might be embarrassed etc but we are meant to be a partnership!
He's due home at 5, is don't want to be here, but I have to face it right? Considering getting our 5 yr old to have a sleep over somewhere else coz I'm concerned it will turn into a fight even if I'm determined now to be mature and calm....
Unfortunately we've had a rocky relationship and I have doubts about our future anyway, but I've gotta keep trying right?!
Any advice will help, thanks
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Help with lying partner
Lolly1984 · 07/01/2016 14:35
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