After problems in our 13 year relationship, to which it got to very near breaking point.
Partner finally admitted he wanted us to stay together and that he loved me, and didn't want us to split(no kids) and give it at least 3 mths to get it back.
He mainly goes to the shops in the morning( as he's better at getting up than me) for food for lunch maybe tea.
So pm is usually free!
He might ask me " shall we go for lunch today" once maybe twice a week.
If we do the most were out is maybe 2 hours.
We he goes out on his own he's probably out for between 3-4 hours.
Now he's not a pub person (2 drinks max anytime) and only goes out to pub on Friday night with friend.
If I DO ask where he's been(red flag, thinks its invasion of privacy previously) he says for a coffee,shopping(shoes,clothes etc)
When he first retired this was a arguement point everyday as he would say
"Where we going today" I didn't always have the answer or sometimes I didn't won't to go anywhere just to get out of the house. This turned into a big rift between us.
So to date
Middle November was the start of 3 month trial, things are little better between us.
But
I still feel hurt/unhappy that he prefers to just go out with me for maybe twice a week, I feel he can't wait after lunch to get out(he hates staying in especially now he's retired) even when there shed loads to do in the house! Hoovering downstairs is his cleaning part!
I feel I can't bring this up again, as it caused many rows in the past, but I find it hurtful.
I could find things to do myself each day no problem, but then what sort of relationship would we have then?
I know he's not a DIY man, so will only ever do something for say couple hours then he as to go out(I do struggle with this)
This would feel like we just live together!
I'm I asking too much????
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Retired ladies help - partner would rather go out alone
Haribogirl · 07/01/2016 13:34
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