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Unsuitable much?

(20 Posts)
PrincessBooBoo Tue 05-Jan-16 10:47:35

I would like to go out with an older man, he's 60 Im 50. I have no problem asking him, but Im looking into the future and it looks bleak. I mean, its a big age gap, and he has a young son of 10 and is perfectly solvent and normal.

What are the pitfalls of going out with a much older man. I do not wish to become a companion, but do believe I could make a real go of it too. Maybe there are more good points than bad. Any opinions?

PrincessBooBoo Tue 05-Jan-16 11:10:25


lasagnefortea Tue 05-Jan-16 11:10:30

60 is the new 50 providing you have a positive outlook (not one where the future looks bleak)

goddessofsmallthings Tue 05-Jan-16 11:18:16

10 years is hardly "much older".

Why are you overthinking this when you haven't yet asked him to go out with you? Do you see every man you fancy having a date with as a potential life-partner?

BitOutOfPractice Tue 05-Jan-16 11:26:19

I assume you're only asking him on a date. Not to marry you

I think you are crossing a gazillion too many bridges here!

hellsbellsmelons Tue 05-Jan-16 11:30:52

60 vs 50 is hardly a HUGE age gap.
Go for it. Enjoy it.
Blimey, stop looking so far into the future.

Savagebeauty Tue 05-Jan-16 11:32:06

Just have fun!
You could die first.

ShortandSweeter Tue 05-Jan-16 11:43:43

10 years is nothing.

pocketsaviour Tue 05-Jan-16 18:29:52

If you were 30, that would be a big age gap!

My rule of thumb on these is that 2/3 of the oldest partner's age is about what's acceptable. So for him, dating a 40 year old would be okay.

What are you specifically worried about? Retirement? Having to provide personal care for him?

NotNowBono Tue 05-Jan-16 18:53:41

Well, if he was spry enough to father a child at 50, I reckon he'll be good for a few years yet, surely?

AnyFucker Tue 05-Jan-16 18:55:38

50 and 60 is not a huge gap

You are the same generation. Do you still fancy yourself as 21 ? grin

Bobblehat10 Tue 05-Jan-16 19:13:58

Mind you, if you look far enough, any future looks bleak.

I don't think I am going to survive this life. sad

AnyFucker Tue 05-Jan-16 19:16:52

None of us survive this life smile

Timetorethink Tue 05-Jan-16 19:21:27

You think YOU have a problem - I am female and I'm 11 years older than my partner sad (52/41)

Why look so far ahead - just enjoy the moment smile

pizzaeatingmonkey Tue 05-Jan-16 19:26:37


PrincessBooBoo Tue 05-Jan-16 20:42:06

Yeah Im probably over thinking it. Just wanted to see any benefits over a younger man I suppose. Been there and done that!

AnyFucker Tue 05-Jan-16 21:06:04

Err, every individual man has his own "benefits" (or not, as the case may be...)

Cabrinha Tue 05-Jan-16 22:30:03

At 50 I wouldn't mind a 60yo.
Not sure I could be arsed with a 10yo child to account for though!

Effendi Wed 06-Jan-16 12:21:18

I'm 46 and my DH is 58. Its hardly noticeable.

Crumpet1 Wed 06-Jan-16 12:23:44

I think the gap is fine. My dh is 7 years older than me and we get on fine.
I think usually one of you will catch up to the other. In my case I act more like my DHs age rather than my own.

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