Feel very torn about what to do. Have posted several times in the past; marriage has been pretty strained at times, we've had several different lots of counseling over the years, and I made the decision to stick together to provide a stable family for the DC. (Dh has refused to leave, in the past, and simply says "where there's a will there's a way" whenever I've tried to get him to face facts.). I suspect he is way up on the aspergers spectrum, can't empathise with other people, has to stick to tight routines etc. He's not a bad person, and generally a good dad, but he is incredibly hard to live with and its getting worse. We certainly don't make each other happy, and I'm a bit fed up with the bickering and snidy comments (both of us.) When I decided to hang on in there, I thought it best for the DC to have mum and dad at home, holidays, Christmas etc together. I thought it would be very traumatic for them if I 'forced' a separation (as he sees no need for it). However, as Ds1 is older, 14, he is beginning to find DH as difficult as I do. Dh causes a lot of stress in the house, but cannot see it, blaming me, as I'm so "negative and unreasonable. ". Cards on the table; I don't love him, haven't for several years. However, ds1 was critically ill a few years ago, and the whole family have been through such a lot. We still have endless trips to GT ormond St. I don't want to cause more unhappiness for the boys, and maybe this is just post Christmas marital strain. But I'm not sure what to do. I want to protect the boys and have a happy family life, but dh and I just don't get on; if only he would admit it! I can't face moving out of our home with the dc, dog etc, but I know damn well dh won't go.
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