I know i'm probably going to sound really selfish but i've had a really horrible time recently and I feel like my boyfriend hasn't been there for me, but then again I don't really know what I expect him to do, my emotions are just all over the place at the moment.
We've been together 2 years, don't live together, had no plans to spend Christmas or new years together or anytime inbetween. (Him busy not me) He went to his family's house just before Christmas and not due back till Sunday. And his friends house party last night.
Christmas day was awful due to family problems and two days after I was attacked by a man I didn't know, I don't really want to go into it but it was terrifying and I thought I was going to be raped.
Boyfriend knows and I've obviously been really quiet and not myself. He did offer to come over once on the 29th but I just said I was fine because it seemed like he was just offering because he felt he had to.
I had only made plans for new years eve about a week ago when I realised I was probably going to spend it alone (I wasn't invited to his friends house party but then again i've never met friend)
But after the incident I didn't really feel up to going out, so spent new years eve at home alone having a cry.
He knew I would be, he asked what I was up to and I told him I'd be home by myself. I don't know what I expected, but some part of me did want him to at least offer to cancel his plans and come over.
To top it all off nicely I got numerous drunk calls last night from him, it was pretty horrible listening to people laughing and having a good time with loud music when I was so depressed. Last night when he said "happy new year" I just lost it, told him it was innapropriate and hung up. He's messaged today asking me what I meant and offering to come over Monday.
He's also been sending me jokes to 'ditract me'
I don't know if any of that even made any sense and like I said I honestly don't even know what I expect from him I'm just feeling so alone and sorry for myself.
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I think he should be doing more
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Justwantsomeadviceplease · 01/01/2016 20:30
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