I feel a little ungrateful writing this here tbh as I know there are plenty of families who would love to spend all of every school holiday together. However, it's driving me crazy. My husband that is.
We are both teachers and have a toddler, I work part-time (if you can call it that) and DH is full time. Every school holiday we have together is spent arguing and by the end, I can't wait to return to work for a break from him.
Our jobs are pretty demanding to say the least, so I understand that DH wants to 'rest' during his very well earned break, but we're so busy during the week that a lot of household jobs are put on hold. DH never finishes jobs and I see our holidays as a chance to yes, rest but also try to catch up. I spend my entire holiday giving DH instructions on what to do next because without them, he's super-glued to the sofa with a remote control in his hand.
He's a fabulous Dad and plays with DS inbetween switching the channels, but all whilst I run around like a blue-arsed fly. I'd quite like to play with DS myself and have a rest but I'm doing all of our household jobs without any help from him unless I request it. He seemingly has no motivation for anything whatsoever. He doesn't have to plan, organise anything. I found xmas a big pile of stress on top of an already enormous to-do list, he just appears to wander around at a leisurely pace asking me irritating questions about what I'm doing and why. My friend referred to him as an ' old man' last week. I've thought the same myself!
I feel I spend my time at work giving instructions to children, I dont want to spend my hols giving them to a fully grown man. It's depressing. Today I snapped that I was glad the Christmas holiday was coming to an end so that I didn't have to battle with him anymore. I feel really guilty.
Perhaps we are just spending far too much time together when we're not at work?
Holidays away from home are much better and I enjoy his company.
Every holiday we spend at home together is just a huge chore.
How can I get him to help more without giving him so many sodding instructions all the time?
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Holidays with DH: So frustrating!
aquadoodledo · 01/01/2016 19:49
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