I left a very long marriage in which there was no intimacy whatsoever between me & my then dh. We had separate bedrooms for over 15yrs & never had sex. Now I'm divorced and have a lovely new boyfriend. The trouble is I can't sleep with him. Sex is ok but when it comes to sleeping I just can't. I'm so used to being on my own. The slightest noise or movement/ body heat & I wake up. It would be lovely to fall asleep cuddled up but I just can't manage it. Each time we try to sleep together he nods off & I end up staring at the ceiling all night long! It's so frustrating & exhausting. My heart starts racing & I guess my pulse goes up because I can feel my blood rushing around my body. I usually get up & take paracetamol to slow it down but I don't calm down enough for proper refreshing sleep, just enough for mini cat-naps. I just can't relax enough to sleep. Any ideas?
It took me a few months to sleep nicely with DP after being single for a couple of years. However, I have now got in to the habit of sleeping with my arms over my ears to block out any noise which makes me an even worse sleeper in general. Even when alone now, I can't sleep without my ears being covered. So frustrating. But at least I sleep
I can sympathise as I have the same problem. Am a very light sleeper so have to wear ear plugs even to get a half decent night sleep. Even then I wake up several times in the night everytime he moves or makes a noise. I am thinking a bigger bed might help.
DH and I are both light sleepers and don't sleep well together. So at the moment I co sleep with the dds and he sleeps in the spare room. It works extremely well for us and we still manage lots of sex and affection. I do miss waking up and having a snuggle but he often creeps into the bed once the dds are up. It just requires a bit of extra thought.