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Do I just end it all?

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 13:57

My ex and I broke up in August after I found out he was a liar and he ended it with me very cruelly.
The problem is my best friend is his sister.
I think I need to end our friendship.
Last night she had a New Years party and I wasn't invited(he was there with new gf) I sat home alone.
She didn't speak at all no New Years text or anything.
I feel like a outcast now.
She mentions him all the time how he has moved on etc how he has lost weight.
Almost as if she is rubbing my nose in it.
She hated us being together.
She didn't invite me to a Halloween party as he was there.
Monday we were going for lunch and I was heading to her place and she said I had to stand on the corner in the rain as he was in her house and it would be too awkward.

I think I need a clean break from them all.

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ManicPixieDream · 01/01/2016 14:00

You do. He will always be her brother. It doesn't sound like she is being the sort of friend you need in your life. Get out there and meet other people. New year, new you. Flowers

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ImperialBlether · 01/01/2016 14:00

Dump her. She's not a true friend. You're absolutely right; you need a break from anyone like this.

Happy new year - hope this one is much, much better for you.

Flowers

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loveyoutothemoon · 01/01/2016 14:02

Did you send her a text?

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TooSassy · 01/01/2016 14:02

Of course you do.

I never understand people who don't understand the rules of breaking up. He's your ex. She's his sister. End of. Her loyalty lies with him as it should and no one wants the ex that isn't over the other ex around at parties. Sorry, they just don't.

I had an acquaintance that did this. They broke up. She continued to socialise in his (her exes) circle. It was painful to watch from afar. I never understand it.

Find a new best friend and cut them out your life.

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 14:02

Happy new year to you too.
I think I do.
It's bringing me down.
I know later she will post pics on Facebook although il try tell myself he is a shit and won't be long till he hurts the new gf.

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lazymoz · 01/01/2016 14:03

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 14:04

It hurts as I've been a good friend to her.
Lent her money,took her on holiday,been there through her miscarriage.
I kind of feel disappointed at how she has made me feel bad.
Is it so bad of me to think she should of still invited me and just dealt with the awkwardness rather than knowing I'm home alone upset.
I don't give a shit about Him now,I know he is vile but I expected better from her.

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 14:06

No I didn't as she didn't invite me or acknowledge me.
I thought stuff her.

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Tutt · 01/01/2016 14:08

I'm married to my (what was) best friends brother, our friendship has suffered badly, this was because my husband and I feel out and he decided to confide in her, she obviously took his side.

Sad as it is but they will take their siblings side, mine was a 40 year friendship but I respect that she took sides and now have distanced myself.

It's horrible OP but you have to do what is best for you and being friends with her soons painful and detrimental to you.

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Tutt · 01/01/2016 14:09

*fell not feel bloody autoshite!

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loveyoutothemoon · 01/01/2016 14:09

Can you not keep your friendship separate? I can understand not wanting the pair of you in the same house. How did you know that she was going to have the party-Facebook?

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 14:11

Yes posting on Facebook.
Getting ready for party with friends and family.
She told me and said so what's your plans new year so I said I take it I'm not invited and she just laughed.

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loveyoutothemoon · 01/01/2016 14:14

At least she asked you and was seemingly bothered. I would've wished her a HNY. I think maybe you are over thinking this?

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 14:16

I honestly don't think I am.
She only asked as I kept dropping hints.
She has done nothing but gloat since we broke up.

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Goingtobeawesome · 01/01/2016 14:18

How can she have been your best friends if she hated you being with her brother? She's no friend now, rubbing it in about his new situation.

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loveyoutothemoon · 01/01/2016 14:18

Why would you keep dropping hints? In what way has she gloated?

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 14:24

When we first said we liked each other years ago she tried to stir trouble saying I said this he said that.
Tried to stop us running into each other.
Told him it was like incest.
Then now she is saying he is so happy,he has bought her a lovely present.
Happier than he has ever been etc

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loveyoutothemoon · 01/01/2016 14:26

Well in that case you are better off without. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that in the first place.

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HolgerDanske · 01/01/2016 14:27

Sorry, this person is/was your best friend? She doesn't sound as if she's a nice person at all.

You can find a much better best friend than that Flowers

Time to move on, forget them both.

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 14:27

I think she thought she would loose me to Him.
Now that it's over she's pleased but I've seen her true colours too.

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loveyoutothemoon · 01/01/2016 14:28

Well that's just ridiculous. Do you have other close friends, how old are you?

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lampshady · 01/01/2016 14:30

She's sounds awful. Ditch and be happier for it.

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 14:31

I'm 26.
Yes I have 2 other close friends and other friends I socialise with.
She is quite bitter and sometimes that rubs off on me.
For example if her neighbour gets a new car she will say "how does that afford a new car,hope she crashes it,she's fat anyway etc etc
It can be draining.

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magoria · 01/01/2016 14:55

Well it seems a little like brother like sister.

He was a vile shit to you. She is being a vile shit to you.

Sack them both off and don't give either another thought.

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stressedbutblessed15 · 01/01/2016 15:08

Yep going to just get rid of both.
Starting new year new start.
Going to get my hair done from brunette to blonde..show him what he is missing ha ha.

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