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Can't believe this just happened

(10 Posts)
NotSpeaking Fri 01-Jan-16 11:50:07

Planning on leaving OH but as I'm currently 9 months pregnant I'm waiting for baby to come so I canget my act together to go. I did make a thread a short while ago.
He doesn't know I'm planning on going. We have 2 kids under 4 already.
I've been feeling sick today. Been to my mums with him and he could see this. He thought it would be funny to start play fighting. I asked him to stop and he tapped me on the face (we always muck around like that) I retaliated and tried to slap him back but couldn't. He kept trying to antagonise me with taps and flicking me in the head. I lost it and went for him shouting for him to get out of the house, now he's saying I took a joke too far. And I shouldn't have retaliated. I'm a right mess now and crying. In a bad state. Just want him to leave me alone when I try to explain how I feel he acts like he has no idea what I'm talking about. It's so weird.

Costacoffeeplease Fri 01-Jan-16 12:03:44

I think it might have been better if you hadn't retaliated and just made it clear you weren't up for play fighting.

He acts as if he doesn't understand, but I would bet he does, he just doesn't want to - it sounds shit, do you really have to stay until you have the baby?

Honestly OP he sounds like a manchild, and I think you are right to leave him. If he doesn't understand why repeatedly flicking you in the face would annoy you, when you are heavily pregnant and feeling sick, then he must be lacking in any empathy. He should be cherishing and supporting you. Is he?

NotSpeaking Fri 01-Jan-16 12:05:30

Guess im hormonal and thought if I wack him back he will know how unfunny it is and stop.
Yes I don't have anywhere to go until I can get a job going to get my own place.

NotSpeaking Fri 01-Jan-16 12:07:29

No curiouser that's why Ive had enough. His behaviour is beyond. Caught him looking at escorts sites which has prompted me to go. That along with him always being negative, rude and generally hard to live with. Had an emotional affair before, the list goes on. I've just had enough of him.
I'm in a right state today now and I'm finding it hard to get out of.

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Fri 01-Jan-16 12:08:57

Wow, did your mum say anything?

Costacoffeeplease Fri 01-Jan-16 12:09:34

Yes, sounds like you definitely need to split - I don't suppose there's any way you can get him out? Is it his house?

IWasHereBeforeTheHack Fri 01-Jan-16 12:26:43

Could you stay at your Mum's? If you were my DD, I'd take you in to get away from a man like that!

He sounds very difficult to live with, and the escort site thing sounds like the last straw. As costa says, is there any way you could get him out at all?

Viviennemary Fri 01-Jan-16 12:36:40

You say we always muck about like that. Well you can't expect him to behave any differently. You both need to grow up IMHO. You will soon be the parents of three very young children which is extremely hard work for anybody. You must make the best decision under the circumstances which is probably to leave. But it will be hard work on your own.

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