My Mum is nearly 60, diabetic, very heavy smoker, takes no care of herself at all and is also fairly depressed since my Dad left eight years ago.
Basically I'm now worried she's seriously ill. Her voice has been getting hoarser and hoarser for the last two months, she's barely eating (says she has no appetite but basically cba - she'll eat if we're out or someone else cooks), and she's constantly exhausted and forgetting everything.
The trouble is, she refuses to go to the doctor. She's terrified of medical stuff and has said on the past she'd rather just die of something like cancer than be told she has it. Ditto alzheimers, which both her mum and grandma had - she doesn't want to know if she's getting it ever. I'm a medical student, so aware I'm probably in the position of seeing awful sinister illnesses round every corner, but I do think there's enough to be a bit worried about.
If I say anything to her though she'll flip out, accuse me of trying to scare her/ trying to 'kill her with fear'/ pushing my 'agenda' (she thinks and has said in the past I want to medicalise everything - when I idly wondered to her if my DS might have a milk allergy as he had constant rashes.) and after all that hassle she still won't go to the GP.
But I have to say something, don't I?
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Worried my Mum is really ill and don't know what to do
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CesareBorgiasUnicornMask · 31/12/2015 20:59
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