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FB Message - husband cheating

(17 Posts)
Pixilicious Thu 31-Dec-15 11:33:35

So, I got a message from someone I've never heard of (very common name, think Tony Smith so hundreds on FB) at 2.35am today saying 'your husband is using the Internet for casual sex' No name of husband or any identifying details, literally just those words.

I deleted the message and haven't spoken to dh about it as he was working nights last night and is now in bed.

Gut instinct tells me this is bullshit but wondering whether to even mention it to dh.


Epilepsyhelp Thu 31-Dec-15 11:37:17

Do you think he could be using the Internet for sex?! If I got that message I would just ask DH about it to be honest. Is there a reason you don't want to ask?

BeyonceRiRiMadonnna Thu 31-Dec-15 11:39:13

You should've investigated instead of deleting.

I'd ask for more info/proof from this "Tony Smith" before I'd even mention it to hubby.

Trills Thu 31-Dec-15 11:52:28

It is the school holidays.

I'd assume it was a fake account and people messing about.

Pixilicious Thu 31-Dec-15 12:01:22

No absolutely no reason to suspect. I didn't delete it intentionally, it had an accept button next to it, I pressed no and it deleted the message. I will mention to dh later once he is up, see what he says. I have checked his FB friends and no one of that name in there, I'm assuming it is someone being a dick.

Hurr1cane Thu 31-Dec-15 12:03:00

Someone else had this exact message recently on here didn't they? With the accept button and everything?

Tomboyinatutu Thu 31-Dec-15 12:03:04

And this would be why I don't use Facebook. Some people make stuff up just to cause trouble. Maybe tell him about the message and see how he reacts?

HooseRice Thu 31-Dec-15 12:04:56

Someone else on here had the same message last week. It's s scam OP.

Finola1step Thu 31-Dec-15 12:05:49

In all honesty, I think it is some dickhead messing about and sending random messages to people for kicks. Just like when I was younger, people would do the same thing but over the phone. Before things like 1471.

Unless of course you have your suspicions anyway.

Celticlassie Thu 31-Dec-15 12:08:13

I think it's a scam - I've heard about this before.

I suppose the issue is if you think it could be true.

AnchorDownDeepBreath Thu 31-Dec-15 12:08:26

If you get a message from someone who is not you friend, you now get to options - accept, which tells the sender that you've viewed the message and allows you to reply, and reject, which deletes the message. You can also press back and do nothing.

With such limited information, this is probably a scam.

Pixilicious Thu 31-Dec-15 12:11:22

Thanks all - it was a bit if a shock even though I felt certain it was a scam. It's horrible, sews a seed of doubt. I'll still mention it to dh though smile

ColdWhiteWinePlease Thu 31-Dec-15 12:13:06

I think it's someone dicking about.

Unless he is AWOL sometimes or secretive with his phone. Which would be tell tale signs that something was up.

Like my DH says "who has the time for an affair?" We do both wonder about that one. I mean surely the person shagging about would have large chunks of time "missing"?

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Pidapie Thu 31-Dec-15 12:35:12

Yeah sounds like nonsense to me as well. Probably someone fishing for information for a scam.

Pixilicious Thu 31-Dec-15 13:07:34

Just spoke to him, barely a flicker of a response. Knowing him that gives it zero credence smile

goodnightdarthvader1 Thu 31-Dec-15 13:14:08

Someone else had this exact message recently on here didn't they? With the accept button and everything?

Yes. It was a woman's name but a dodgy-looking fake profile. I'd be suspicious of the lack of evidence or explanation.

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