I have posted about my mother before and our toxic relationship, but have NC as history too identifying.
After our last bust up about 5 months ago I have gone extremely low contact and only see her if necessary. It's hard not to tbh as we cross paths quite a lot due to a few factors.
She wants me to go to an anniversary party on Sunday for my grandparents, they've been married 60 years. HE abused me as a child and as an adult.
She didn't believe me when I told her this a few years ago and absolutely worships the ground he walks on - she says I need to get over it and as he is very ill I should feel sorry for him and 'bury the hatchet' by acting as normal.
I've already agreed not to report to the police or expose him to the rest of our family, for her sake and that of his DW (my grandmother) who has heart problems. I think that is decent of me to be fair.
Am I BU to refuse to go to this party? I've said no tonight in an email and she is pissed off with me and says it's 'my loss'. It has triggered something in me and I am feeling very agitated, upset and actually - ANGRY.
He also abused her when she was younger FFS! Yes she denies this.
Please can someone just reassure me that I have a right to not go to this stupid party :(
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The54Immortals · 29/12/2015 22:16
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