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I think I'm in shock. Has this really just happened?

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Isthisreallyhappeningtome Tue 29-Dec-15 20:39:27

I've had a horrible year. A horrible horrible year. I escaped a violent relationship, was made homeless with a baby, tried to commit suicide and lost a family member on Xmas day.
Tonight my friends decided to club together and take me out for a night in a town we used to go to befire we all had children. My best friends his bad very kindly has taken my DD overnight. Please bare with me I'm rambling but I'm in shock.
I had a few drinks at a new bar and we decided to go to an old bar where I used to work. I was standing there when my friend who is the bar man places a drink in front of me. A gin and lemonade with a dash of grenadine. There is only one person in the world who knows I used to drink that and I just go numb. My friends says it's from that gentlemen across the bar and sure enough there stands my estranged husband who I haven't seen in 5 years.
He was shot a year after we got married and suffered terrible PTSD and it broke down our marriage. He left to go and sort himself out and I decided to try and move on. I never stopped thinking about him, never stopped loving him and now he's here, asleep next to me. I just can't believe this is happening and genuinely think I'm going to wake up in the morning and it was all a dream. I don't even know why I'm posting here I just needed to speak to somebody or someone to tell me that this is real!

SagaNorensLeatherTrousers Tue 29-Dec-15 20:42:57

Wow! That sounds like a nice end to the year, but I guess you probably have a lot of talking to do? Why is he asleep so early? grin

MakemineaGandT Tue 29-Dec-15 20:43:59

All before 8.45?!

Isthisreallyhappeningtome Tue 29-Dec-15 20:46:27

The plan was to go out early and go bed early to avoid the hangover!! Well, I was supposed to be out later but obviously bumping into the long lost love of my life changed the plan a little! Took him home straight away. Don't think I need to explain the rest!

ivykaty44 Tue 29-Dec-15 20:48:48

So are you still married to each other?
Is he over getting shot?

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usual Tue 29-Dec-15 20:51:04

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Isthisreallyhappeningtome Tue 29-Dec-15 20:52:21

Still married just separated. I don't think anyone would ever get over being shot would they? He was a marine, sorry maybe shouldve mentioned that.

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Iggi999 Tue 29-Dec-15 20:52:53

I think your friends must be disappointed you left so soon!

Twinklefuck Tue 29-Dec-15 20:53:11

Is he your dd's dad?

Wow you'll have a lot of catching up to do wine

Isthisreallyhappeningtome Tue 29-Dec-15 20:53:30

I know this sounds like a crazy movie plot but this is my life so please don't try and "troll hunt".

LaurieFairyCake Tue 29-Dec-15 20:53:31

A British royal marine?

Floggingmolly Tue 29-Dec-15 20:53:50

So he just rolled over and went to sleep afterwards? At 8.45?

Quiero Tue 29-Dec-15 20:53:54

Can the last one to leave turn the lights out.

Nottodaythankyouorever Tue 29-Dec-15 20:54:05

Riggghhttttt ok hmm

Isthisreallyhappeningtome Tue 29-Dec-15 20:54:14

No he's not Dd's dad. That was a man I met a 2 years ago. He was the violent one.

usual Tue 29-Dec-15 20:54:18

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SagaNorensLeatherTrousers Tue 29-Dec-15 20:55:26

Next time tell us you stayed up all hours making love and engaging in pillow talk. Asleep before 8:45 just suggests you watched the One Show and took simultaneous swigs from the economy sized Gaviscon bottle before turning in for the night.

LaurieFairyCake Tue 29-Dec-15 20:55:41

He left and hasn't seen you or his child for years and you took him home with you sad

What about your kid? This is a terrible idea, you've had a dreadful time and frankly
you don't need any more bollocks thanks

Bubblesinthesummer Tue 29-Dec-15 20:55:50

Right so you bumped into an ex, took him back to yours and your first thought is must post this on MN....

usual Tue 29-Dec-15 20:56:01

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