DH and I plus DS (3) have just spent 2 days at in-laws'. MIL has form for histrionics when she feels slighted, FIL enables this and turns it on us. He also makes us feel unwelcome.
DS was eating toast at breakfast when MIL took it off him and started dipping it for him - he shouted 'NO!' and got upset. I got him to thank MIL for lovely breakfast and took him next door to defuse the situation. Cue hysterical wailing from MIL about how we should have told DS not to speak to Grandma like that, and FIL roaring at DH about how she's got 12 months to live (irrelevant and not factual - she's refusing to take meds after radiotherapy).
My position is this: DS is allowed to say no if someone invades his space and upsets him. DH agrees. PIL think he's feral, clearly (he was fantastic the whole visit, no tantrums, super behaviour).
Where do we go from here? I know they're toxic, co-dependant etc. but DH wants to see his mum and is crushed by their behaviour. me, not so much, I've seen it before and I'll see it again (unless we go NC).
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Urgh...a PIL one (sorry)
YokoUhOh · 29/12/2015 14:42
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