I've come to the decission that in 2016 I really need to enforce some boundaries with my DM, who is quite frankly driving me mad. She is a difficult woman anyway, and I've long suspected she has undiagnosed mental health problems.
In a nutshell she is never wrong and always has to be right, is overly opinionated to the point of rudeness and hates anyone disagreeing with her. Even now as an adult I struggle to air an opinion im case I offend someone, and I'm sure this stems from her literally screaming at me on the very rare occasions when I dared to tell challenge her point of view on something. She has an overwhelming need to control the family and is IMO very overly invested in mine and DB's, she loves telling us and DF what we should and shouldn't do and becomes hysterical if we don't fall into line. In recent years she has also become very nasty with DF, whom can't do anything right. I sometimes wonder why the hell she married him as all she does is whinge about him.
She hates me being confident and does all she can to slap me down. Keep me in my place so to speak. She hates me being good at anything and I think sees me as a threat for some reason. Any kind of assertiveness from me is met with backhanded compliments and a corrosive drip of negativity.
It's like she can't see us as seperate beings from her. I accept a lot of her issues stem from her childhood, and she was parented in a very similar way. Her siblings have very similar boundary issues with their children, and I know that my cousins have similar battles to me own.
So anyway it's time to instill some boundaries. I've had enough, but don't know where to start? How do you break a lifetime of this kind of behaviour?
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How do I enforce some boundaries with an overbearing, controlling mother?
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CrazyMermaidHair · 28/12/2015 13:43
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