I've fallen in love with a man who is 52. I am 32. He can't have anymore children for biological reasons. I badly want children. We can't be together unless I am ok with not having kids. He already has 2 from a previous marriage.
I knew from 4 weeks into dating him that he couldn't have kids. We stopped seeing each other but still spoke - I feel like he is my soulmate and it's hard not to talk to him. We only text - nothing on the phone. It's been like this for months with a coffee every other week or so as friends.
I love him so much and so deeply. He understands the situation and has said to me that if it's easier for us not to speak, he understands and will not pursue talking. At the same time, he says he is willing to be friends as he doesn't want to lose me in his life.
This man has been open and honest with me and I have tried to reason with myself that this wont work etc, and I know that. I have been on dates recently and know I must focus on my own future. But the love for him is still there.
Not sure what I'm asking really...just feel really low. I have never ever been in love like it - I think the absolute world of him. Not sure what to do from here...
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He can't have kids and I'm deeply in love, feel gutted
gottago2 · 27/12/2015 22:42
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