Where do you all think a person should stand on when you choose to fight for someone or forget them?
I believe this person is a truly good person, that genuinely cares about me and I think we would be / could be very happy together and wish we were together to be honest BUT, we messed up quite madly at out attempt at a relationship and I am not sure if it's best to draw a line in the sand and make that person part of your past - or if you feel like there is really something there - if you should fight for someone you think you might love?
Both of us have baggage. Both of us were badly hurt in the past and are very cautious and defensive.
It took us forever to get together because I was very scared of getting into a relationship and he fought for me for a very long time, quite patiently. When were in the relationship, I was very erratic. To be honest I liked him a LOT and felt very vulnerable. I kept pushing him away over and over again and over the couple of months we were dating and at the same time he was also quite guarded and definitely we distanced ourselves from each other. I think I just pushed him one too many times and he figured it wasn't going to work. He then ended up getting attention elsewhere and when I broke it off after a silly fight over nothing, he just went straight into bed with her.
So I am trying to be honest in saying we both messed it up. Him by doing the very thing I was afraid of (talking to another girl and ending up with her, not being honest) and also he was quite emotionally guarded - Me by basically just constantly pushing him away and being hot and cold on him. Both of us were scared.
He's apologised, genuinely misses me, I genuinely miss him, I have apologused too. We have had a couple of months apart. He wants to see me.
I have no idea what to really think. Does my hot and cold behavior excuse the fact that he was talking to someone else? I ave o perspective on this situation and am not sure whether or not to walk away or really go for it.
The truth is, I was in love with him and nevr told him. Acted like I didn't like him and basically did everything to sabotage something good, but I think he also did the same.
Is it worth putting myself out there for the risk, or is it better to walk away?
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Fight for him or forget him?
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fartinmywhitbread · 27/12/2015 19:30
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