I left my husband a few months ago and now live in a different city to him and above married friend. Friend (not a close friend) is someone I met through work, always got on well with etc. got in touch to see if I was ok after leaving husband etc. Tonight he text me asking could something ever happen between us. I obviously replied well I don't think your wife would appreciate it. He pushed it and asked if he was single would we have a chance. I replied well you aren't single are you? You are married to someone who I think is lovely and have a beautiful child so no. It's made me really sad as I always saw him as such a nice person. I sent him a message just saying it would break your wife's heart to see messages like this to someone else. You have a great family and should be very careful you don't lose them. This on top of realising how much of a dicky STBXH is has proved I'm an utterly terrible judge of character
no I think it was a good answer.... it's a reminder to him that the point is not whether you like him or don't like him, he's not free. Fairenuff's answer is how I'd feel but it's no OP's job to give this guy a moral compass.
I'm lucky, or ugly but this hasn't happened to me.
OP it's not you it's him.I've had the same happen many times,some were married,some living together and at least one his partner was pregnant with they're first child.
Each time it happened I was shocked and pissed off with the guys that asked.I'd never given any of them any reason to think I would be interested in them that way and with all of them there were some problems at the time within they're own relationships.
Fair I hadn't thought I it that way. I was trying to make the point that 'what if' really isn't relevant as it not reality. It's so sad that so many on here have had the same. I really feel for these men's wives.