I am still frightened of my ex and deal with him by way of 'keep your enemies closer' to be able to keep an eye on what he is up to and try and avoid or preempt unpleasant surprises.
The children and I stlll live in the family home which is on the market. They are ok-ish about seeing him, but are not interested in a closer relationship with their father. They are sixteen and eleven years old. Their dad, however, won't leave us alone and relentlessly tries to creep back into our family life. It doesn't help that the house doesn't sell. He thinks I am obligated to him when he buys birthday and Christmas presents for the children or looks after our youngest for a morning when she is ill - I work full time. He does not pay any child maintenance. He has three companies and the CMS are unable to assess him properly. If I don't accommodate his requests to spend time with us, he sends me nasty texts send I just had a series of abusive texts, as I stood my ground and did not invite him to Christmas dinner - he came round in the morning, but I asjed him to leave, in particular after he gave me an unpleasant card.
These texts and accusations really get to me and I cannot get them out of my head. What's the cure for this - it's just an endless series of abuse and beratings!
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My Ex still gets into my head and it wears me out.
Karenthetoadwhisperer · 26/12/2015 14:49
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